A CARING CIRCLE

I wasn't planning to write about this today, but a lot has happened which has led to me writing this. I am writing it out of a concerned and caring heart for each and everyone of you out there.

Times are not getting easier for anyone, especially with the current global economic downswing. Many people have gotten used to the life they had before and sometimes it's just too hard to downgrade. Many who have put up a front of living the good life cannot/do not want to live anything less. And this has created a very big problem which many are not aware of. Abuse and psychological issues.

We often see those around us, including friends, showing off the good life on. Be it in person or on social media, these people always seem to be happy. And we as they close friends or loved ones, encourage such behavior. Our comments, and behavior around these people, though not meant to harm, actually do harm. We are often not too real with these people. And sometimes they do not feel free around us. What we need is an open environment with loved ones. A real environment of truth and openness wherein we are all free to express how we feel.

With regards to women, this good life chase, can at times be a mask to hide the abuse. And if we as such a person's friends do not make her feel free enough to open up without fear of shaming, then we are failing as friends. Both male and female friends of such a person should make the person feel free enough to talk about anything. We need to be real friends to those around us, and not just the 'rich' one but all of our friends. There have recently been many cases of women who were being abused but hiding behind the good life. There are many more out there, and it takes you and me by being friends to actually get these people to open up. And when they do, we ought to make them feel protected, with no shaming or judgments.

Another issue is with regards to emotional and psychological states. This is something that can affect anyone, and society doesn't want to openly talk about it. Many people who took their lives could've been saved had they had good friends who listen. Often times we can tell when someone is not alright. But instead of making the person feel free to open up and reassuring them our love and protection, we carry on as if everything is normal. And when we lose the person, we then want to claim we loved them. Sometimes it takes just a hug and reminding your friends how much you love them, in order for them to open up.

I urge you all to go out and be positive and observant. Go and be great support system. Be real with those around you. Remind them that it's okay to cry and ask for help. Show them your support and protection. You will save someone's life by doing so. Create an open environment which encourages speaking out. Do not be that person who shows love as the coffin goes down. Show the love while the person is still around. Let's us go and change the world and make it an environment where we all grow together and take care of one another.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

INFIEARTH

We've been having InfiEarth for a long time now, and some of you may not really understand the true meaning of it. Why infinite earth? Why that name of all names? Is there more to it or is it just a name?

InfiEarth is not just a name. It an attitude and a way of life. It is a reaction to the world we live in. Our world has many problems facing it, some of which threaten it's existence.  Because we are not advancing fast enough, our world is taking punishment for it. The lack of growth and care is tearing the fabric of society. We are faced with pollution, global warming, natural disasters, hunger, poverty and pandemics. Not a week goes by without a headline concerning these matters.

We are all trying to get solutions but we fail to understand that our attitude is very important in solving this. We first need to believe that it is possible before we try to do it. We need a positive attitude and to foresee it happen. Once we believe in an infinite world where there is infinite possibilities and resources for all who live in it, then we can go onto the next step of being a solution. If each one of us were to dedicate ourselves, with belief, to bring solutions, then we will see our world become a better place.

Go out there and work towards an infinite world.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

STOP AND THINK ABOUT THIS

First of all allow me to apologise for having not written anything the past Friday and Monday. We all know Easter was upon us. I too needed some time off away from everything and just have time alone to think about my life. And something dawned on me in the middle of those thoughts. It was more of a voice in my head. "You do realise that one day you might just show up dead in a ditch right?" the voice said. I've never laughed so hard in my laugh. I mean, what could possibly lead to that? I live a very 'dull' life for most right?

Well I was missing the point. The point wasn't how I would die (God help me that I don't end up in a ditch somewhere). The point is that we are all going to die. Now as much as many may think it's okay to lazy around because you are going to die some day, I actually want to focus on the opposite to that. Ask yourself one question. If I were to show up dead in ditch tomorrow, what would people remember me for? Would I be remembered as the ditch corpse? Or would I be remembered for something more positive?

How are you living your life? That was the main aim of the voice in my head. To remind me that I need to give life my best. Very often we get too comfortable and forget to keep chasing greatness. But we forget that tomorrow is not promised. I just want to challenge all of you to go out there with positivity, aiming to be the best you can be. Contribute positively into the world and help make it a better place. That way if you end dead in a ditch somewhere, we will remember you good works. You will be remembered as the person who did a lot for society. Be an answer in this life. Spread positive energy.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

WORDS GIVE LIFE

Yes you may underestimate the art in me

The words I put and you call it poetry

For me it's only word of my revolution

A search for answers and desperate solutions

For your minds it serves as a nursery

Wise words you ought to read with cautionary

For they force man to explore his boundaries

To say his mind out fearlessly

Call me not a poet, I am not one

All of this is just words in my mind

Floods of feelings and emotions I can't overcome

Though this journey has long begun

Though in each writing I have my fun

I still search for myself day and night

I try to say out the words that cluster my mind

Like a ticking bomb that shows no time

My eyes leak as I gaze at our world

Everyday it is by sin, whirled

I will not stop till I free my world

Through this art that my voice is heard

The words in me are finally unfurled

When by words I have educated

Shined the light on those who are blinded

Peace is not found in this world

Peace is found in oneself

Express yourself, say it with words

Pick up a pen and paper and get down

Use your potent hand to dry out the ocean

Tears of endless pain and frowns

The love you seek you can make real

It only takes words to tell your story

Words can really go a long way

Through words I search for who I am

I venture off to the limits of man

I take myself the furthest I can

I create my world, and free myself

From the sin of this world and corrupt man

The universe: created by words

Words: uniting the universe 

 

I am words and my words shall be heard

I will not stop writing, even when it hurts

Even when it rains and inside I burn

Burning my umbrellla with my pain like flames

Yet feeling cold on the inside

 

Though by words I've been hurt

Each time I survive and I learn

Each day, leaves behind a story to tell

Words words words

Please world, learn to use words

Express yourself...

IMPORTANT NOTICE, BIRTHDAY VIBES AND FUTURE PLANS

Good day to all my beautiful readers. I trust you are having a wonderful Friday just like me. Unfortunately today I have a very short notice. I will not be writing like I usually do. And that is because I am in my birthday vibes and also because I have 2 surprises for you. Read on, you will find out what the surprises are.

So tomorrow is my birthday (13th April). And since April babies are cool babies, I decided to include you guys into my celebration with a gift. Drum roll please.

So from today and tomorrow  (12 -13 April), that's 48 hours, my kindle book which is exclusively available on Amazon will be on a special. A very very special special where you don't have to pay anything to get that book in the next 48 hours. Yes, you heard it right. As a gift to everyone, I will be giving the book away for FREE. Help me celebrate my birthday and share the gift I have shared with you. Pass this message on to others. The book is available HERE. Just click and it will take you to the book. Otherwise, I have embedded a preview as well as a buy button right here on InfiEarth on your top right.

And now for the second surprise which is also part of the future plans. Are you ready for it? Well, there is a new baby in the house. InfiEarth has a little brother now. A new blog in which I have decided to use to share my journey as a programmer with you guys and potential programmers out there. I will be sharing programming material only. InfiEarth will still carry on, on the regular Mon, Wed and Fri time table. But the new baby, INFICODING, will get a post weekly.

Visit my new blog at inficoding.blogspot.com 

Happy Weekend and stay safe.

WITH LOVE... AND BIRTHDAY VIBES
Mbuelo Ramafamba

 

REMEMBER WHO HELD YOU

Our journeys in life differ, and so do the challenges. For some of us, we've had to really struggle hard to get to the next point in life, and even when we reach it, the struggle just gets worse. We often have to get by with the assistance of those around us. And when one day when things get better, we must remember these people. But who are these people?

I will touch on 3 types of people we are most likely to encounter in the  struggles of life. Let's start with the one that you don't have to remember. These are the people who saw you starving, had excess and even threw some away, but never invited you in to eat no matter how hard you struggled. They saw how hard you worked and often did tell you how strong you were, but not even once did they offer anything to help ease your hunger. They knew they could assist you in getting your life better but just didn't care. They either didn't care or outright didn't want you to make it at all. When you wine and dine like a king, it's okay if you do not remember these people.

The next group is those who invited you in to eat. However, it will be divided into those you should remember, and those whom you may not. It seems not to make sense to say you may not remember someone who helped you, but it will soon. In this life, there are people who will genuinely help you out of their hearts. And there are people who just want to exercise control over you in the form of helping. The people who are quick to remind to "never bite the hand that feeds you". These people are worse than the people who didn't even offer assistance at all.

These are the people who will invite you in when you hungry, but will give you the food in a dog's bowl, and tell you to appreciate what you have been given. They enjoy seeing you in the state of suffering because it gives them some control over you. It may seem like they are truly helpful while in fact they just want you to be stuck so you keep coming back to them. These are the people who want you to make it but to never exceed the limits they set for you; which are normally set very low. They will start having a problem when you can afford to feed yourself in this life. They turn from the angels they were pretending to be, into demons that want to destroy you. I once had a friend who used to say they had my back. The signs were there that this friend didn't have my back because they constantly tried to drag me down if I ever seemed to exceed their limits. It all got to an extreme when my career started showing signs of growth, and their colors came out in full force. I was told every possible hurting word a person can say. Why? All because I offered a Christmas gift. The problem wasn't me or the gift, but the problem was that I could now stand on my own. The person needed me to always rely on them, and when I did they tried to destroy me with words. If you invite these people in, the least you can expect is for them to poison your feast.

And finally there are those whom you ought to bring to you table when you start feasting like a king. These are the people who shared with you when they too had little. When they had much, they shared with you in a way that gave you dignity. They kept encouraging you and telling you that one day you will feast like a king. They fed you with motivation, financial assistance and emotional support. All they wanted was for you to make it in life. You will see these people by celebrating with you when things get better. They will be with you when it rains, and when the sun comes out. And when things get better, they celebrate positively tell you to aim for the moon. These are people who believe in you. People who starved with you. People who were honest with you. Never lied to you or tried to use you for their own agendas. People who didn't have hidden motives. When you make it in life, always remember these people and never leave them outside to starve. They sacrificed themselves for you out of love. The least you can do is love them back.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

LOVE YOURSELF AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH

What a wonderful time it is to be alive. To start this week on a positive, let's discuss the issue of taking care of health and loving yourself.

Loving yourself is the best gift you can give to yourself. It is a gift no one else will give to you better than you can. Show people how they should love you by loving yourself first. You are the one who knows yourself best. Very often people are left sad and lonely because they give out so much love and never stop to give themselves the very same love. This week, I urge you to pause, and love yourself. Have time to sit down and reflect on how far you've come and how strong you are. After all this time of neglecting yourself, you owe it to yourself to show yourself love. Give yourself that hug you've always been giving out to others when they needed someone.

Let it not just end with the love, but also take care of your health. Take care of your health is not just the usual exercise and eating healthy. I will assume you already know that that's the foundation to good health. But on top of exercising and healthy diets, you also need to take care of what you feed you head and emotions. Your thoughts are just as important as the food you eat. Who you spend time with, talk to and what you talk about is just as important. Expose yourself to positive things only and cut off negativity from your life. It is very easy to get caught up in negativity and pity parties. Change your thoughts and start seeing yourself as beautiful and deserving. Go out and make plans believing in yourself that you can do it. Exercise and healthy food will do nothing for you if you mind isn't in it's right place.

I challenge you to love yourself and take care of your health. Have a wonderful week ahead.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

WHY WORRY

In his song Three Little Birds, Bob Marley said " Don't worry about a thing 'Cause every little thing gonna be alright". Everyday we see people worrying. I too worry many times. We as human tend to give worry a lot of power than we should.

I have recently been in a very difficult position. A position wherein I wasn't and still am not sure of what will happen, since all the power to make things work for the best lies in someone's hands. And that is the case with many of us out there. There's always that something that keeps us worrying, which we have no control over. We worry because we do not know what decision or action the person in control will take.

But have you ever asked yourself, 'What will worrying do' ? Will worrying influence the person to take a decision in your favour? Will worrying make things any better? Why then are you wasting your time worrying when you know your worry will do nothing positive for you? Worrying will only take away from your mental and physical health. Worrying is like choosing to pick up a ton and putting it on your back, especially when you have no control over what you are worrying about. It will only hurt you and weigh you down. Let go of the worry because there is nothing it will do for you.

Once you start realising that worrying does nothing for you, you will start seeing that it is a waste of time to worry. Why do something that will not benefit you in any way? Why give it so much power?
Do not be anxious. Do not worry. It will only take away your focus.

1 Peter 5: 6-7

"⁶ Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: ⁷ Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you."

Further bible reading: Matthew 6: 25-34

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

ADAPT AND STRIVE

The world is forever changing, with billions of data and new technology being introduced daily. Our world is expanding at a rate which we as human are lagging when it comes to getting a grasp of all the changes. And the speed at which it is happening increases exponentially. Many fear these new changes and developments, and some love them.

It is a matter of which side of the fence you are on. These technologies can make your life easier or a living hell. The reality of today is that we have to adapt and embrace these changes, in order to fit them into our daily lives. Resistance is what will make it difficult for us. I am not referring to operating a smart phone or personal computer, but rather adventuring into different productivity softwares, and understanding at least one of the language these machines and technologies communicate in.

I know it looks like I am crazy with actually advising to learn the languages, but the world of tomorrow will favor those who understand at least the basics of these languages. And the languages have recently gotten much better for anyone to just take them up and do wonders with them. Learning these technologies, both hardware and software, give you a much better understanding of them, which will allow you to modify, streamline and even create newer processes which help you complete your duties much faster.

The world is running faster than those who are driving the changes, and it calls for all to adapt quickly. Lagging will be repaid by redundancy. The world of tomorrow will be for those who befriend these technologies and harness their powers to make their lives better. Those are the people who will incorporate these technologies in their daily lives and make these technologies work for them. The startups of today are born global due to these technologies. Technology rewards those who embrace it and it isn't so kind to those who don't.

Do not fear these changes. ADAPT AND STRIVE.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

RETURNING HOME

I have recently been going through a lot. The transition from March to April, is always a season that really hits me hard all the time. April 13th is also my birthday. I get very anxious during this time, especially the week before my birthday. Many terrible things have happened during this time, so it is one of those. In 2016, I was diagnosed with anxiety and borderline personality disorder (BPD), just a week after my 21st birthday. What a birthday gift, haha. And today I just wanted to share how I've managed to cope and manage my condition through prayer.

It wasn't easy at first, as I was asking myself many questions. I knew and felt it before that something was wrong, but not that kind of wrong. It wasn't easy for me to accept it, because I kept asking why me. Looking at the medical prescription just made me feel like I was living in a nightmare. Then came the weight gain, which meant I had to get new clothes. The problems kept piling up. It was one day when I was reading my bible that I had an aha moment. I was reading Psalm 23, and when I got to verse 5,  a voice inside of me arose with a very difficult question. "He prepares a table before you in the presence of your enemies, but where are you?", the voice asked.

It dawned on me that many of us like to quote that verse, yet we are nowhere near where the table is. We say it all the time but do not understand that we have to go where God is in order to enjoy the feast. We want to be out in the rain, in the world of sin, and just magically have a table prepared for us just because we quote the verse. But the reality is we have to go back to the house of God and be where the table is. We have been chosen as royals deserving of a royal table, yet we venture the streets like common man and wonder why we cannot see the table.

It was at this moment that I found my inspiration to write my first book titled "Return  Home: The Shepherd Awaits". You can find it on the top right of this blog if you want a copy. I must also confess, that I didn't think I could do it, and it took me a whole year and a half to finish writing the book. Each time I tried writing, the devil would remind me of my sinful past and my guilt would stop me. But I finally got to understand the great sacrifice, which was Christ, and how His blood renewed us and brought us back from sin. The truth is, God is waiting for us so we can come back home and feast with him. He wants us to go to Him with a repentant heart, and to pray with faith. Whenever you feel lost, always ask yourself how close you are to God. If you realise you are not close, repent at that very moment and return home. Repent at that very moment and ask God to draw you close. God loves a repentant heart and is ready to forgive us and renew our lives. Just go and read these verses for confirmation of His love.

Romans 2:5  ~ Luke 13:3 ~ Ezekiel 18:21-23 ~ 2 Timothy 2:25 ~ Acts 3:19 ~ Proverbs 28:13
2 Chronicles 7:14 ~ John 3:16  ~ 1 John 1:9 ~ Romans 2:5

Repent. It is not too late and you are never too much of a sinner to repent.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba