If life was like standing before a mirror, the past would be looking into your reflection's eyes and seeing the inner most pain, regret and mistakes. It would be the one thing few of us do. In fact, it is the one thing that few of us actually do. How many of us look deep into those eyes when standing in front of a mirror? How many of us want to think of the past?
I know many say it's best to leave the past behind, but sometimes the past will haunt you till you look at it in the eyes. Nobody wants to admit their mistakes, so we tend to avoid that inner conversation with the past. The world of today is moving away from facing things to more of "closing my eyes and hoping when I open them everything will be fine". And the sad part is, we close our eyes without praying. We run far away from anything and/or anyone that aims to correct us. We are too proud and individualistic.
But it is in the past where we learn what not to do today and tomorrow. It is in the past that we somehow get that enlightenment. You don't have to dwell in the past, but rather reflect on your progress from the past as well as checking if you are a better person or not. Are you still as naive, self centered as before? Are people still walking out of your life as before, and why? Reflecting is a way to find our mistakes and imperfection, then polishing them out. It is the only way you can plan your journey to happiness. Understanding your past and reflecting on it, will help you avoid going back to it a.k.a repeating it.
And no matter how hard you avoid reflecting, life will eventually force you to do it. On that one cold night alone. It will break you... In order to make you.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
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Friday, 10 May 2019
Monday, 8 April 2019
LOVE YOURSELF AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH
What a wonderful time it is to be alive. To start this week on a positive, let's discuss the issue of taking care of health and loving yourself.
Loving yourself is the best gift you can give to yourself. It is a gift no one else will give to you better than you can. Show people how they should love you by loving yourself first. You are the one who knows yourself best. Very often people are left sad and lonely because they give out so much love and never stop to give themselves the very same love. This week, I urge you to pause, and love yourself. Have time to sit down and reflect on how far you've come and how strong you are. After all this time of neglecting yourself, you owe it to yourself to show yourself love. Give yourself that hug you've always been giving out to others when they needed someone.
Let it not just end with the love, but also take care of your health. Take care of your health is not just the usual exercise and eating healthy. I will assume you already know that that's the foundation to good health. But on top of exercising and healthy diets, you also need to take care of what you feed you head and emotions. Your thoughts are just as important as the food you eat. Who you spend time with, talk to and what you talk about is just as important. Expose yourself to positive things only and cut off negativity from your life. It is very easy to get caught up in negativity and pity parties. Change your thoughts and start seeing yourself as beautiful and deserving. Go out and make plans believing in yourself that you can do it. Exercise and healthy food will do nothing for you if you mind isn't in it's right place.
I challenge you to love yourself and take care of your health. Have a wonderful week ahead.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Loving yourself is the best gift you can give to yourself. It is a gift no one else will give to you better than you can. Show people how they should love you by loving yourself first. You are the one who knows yourself best. Very often people are left sad and lonely because they give out so much love and never stop to give themselves the very same love. This week, I urge you to pause, and love yourself. Have time to sit down and reflect on how far you've come and how strong you are. After all this time of neglecting yourself, you owe it to yourself to show yourself love. Give yourself that hug you've always been giving out to others when they needed someone.
Let it not just end with the love, but also take care of your health. Take care of your health is not just the usual exercise and eating healthy. I will assume you already know that that's the foundation to good health. But on top of exercising and healthy diets, you also need to take care of what you feed you head and emotions. Your thoughts are just as important as the food you eat. Who you spend time with, talk to and what you talk about is just as important. Expose yourself to positive things only and cut off negativity from your life. It is very easy to get caught up in negativity and pity parties. Change your thoughts and start seeing yourself as beautiful and deserving. Go out and make plans believing in yourself that you can do it. Exercise and healthy food will do nothing for you if you mind isn't in it's right place.
I challenge you to love yourself and take care of your health. Have a wonderful week ahead.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Wednesday, 27 March 2019
BITTERNESS WILL KILL YOU FIRST
Many of you will probably hate me after this, and for that, I apologise. However, it is necessary for me to write this as per my observations. My aim is to help and not hurt, but the truth does hurt in the end. I'd rather hurt you with truth than make you smile with lies.
We have all been hurt or experienced pain one way or another in this life. The cause might have been many things ranging from violence to rejection. No one is absolved. It is part of this life. There is always going to be some sort of pain or loss.Some get over it pretty quick and some do not. It all depends also on the degree of hurt we've suffered. Some people taking longer and need counseling to get over it, while some just enjoy being sorrowful and having everyone feel sorry for themselves. The latter is often true when it comes to failed relationships.
The problem is as human beings we are proud creatures. Pride is one thing that worsens it for us. We think we are too special and shouldn't have to go through such. We are often egocentric in nature and feel we can do as we please with no repercussions, yet we have a problem when others do the same towards us. This combined with hurt and pain, often turns to bitterness and hate towards others. Sometimes we do not want to admit that we are just being bitter, and blame it on 'I've been hurt'.
The bitterness boils so much that it ends in negative and judgmental statement all the time. You get parents tell their children not to get married because their marriage failed. They do not want to accept that it is their marriage that failed, and thus blame it on everything they can find as long as it's not them. You get youth busy influencing their friends to be promiscuous because their relationship failed and they've concluded that everyone is the same.
But there are other serious cases which arise from bitterness. Sometimes people try to destroy other because of the bitterness. When everyone is being positive, they always have to find something negative about the person. Their aim is to destroy the person but they do not realise that they are attracting negative energy towards themselves. They are constantly surrounding themselves with negative thought and actions. They are out to destroy and will stop at nothing. They may spread rumors, bash others with words or try to sabotage the other person systematically. But because they are always looking out for a negative thing to use to destroy someone, they do not see that they are attracting more negativity towards themselves, than they are dishing out to others. In the end they get addicted to the negativity and always want to be 'hurt' in order to justify their bitterness.
And if they fail, they resort to pity parties. They strive on attention and use it to reassert their bitterness and negativity. This usually happens when they have tried all their best to destroy others and have failed. They do not want to admit that they have failed, so they'd rather be the victim. This way they can paint the other person as the villain, since they are the victim. They gather people who will reassert and validate them as a victim. And the more they carry on, the deeper they go in it. Negativity is like sink sand. It strives on bitterness, hate, envy, jealousy and a victim mentality.
The truth is if everyone was to be bitter about things you did to them, you'd have more people trying to destroy you than the ones you are trying to destroy. You'd have more people with a lot of negative things to say about you than you can say about others. Get off that high horse and start being positive about life. You bitterness is sinking you in a lot of negativity that will push everyone away and destroy you in the end. You unjustified bursts of anger towards those who love you and care about you, in the name of 'I am a hurt victim' will push them away. Stop trying to destroy or bring down others because there are other people out there whom you've hurt also. Pain is not pain only when it's felt by you. Pain is pain even when you are the one causing it.
Get rid of the negativity and you will see your life turn around. Get rid of the bitterness and you will see you heart heal. Forget the pity parties and bitterness trains that you enjoy with bitter people like you, and focus more on the positive side of life. Work hard and conquer the pain instead of working hard at victimising and destroying yourself. Stop going nowhere in reverse at top speed, and start doing something positive with your. You will not get anything out of destroying the other person. You will just want to destroy more people once you are done and will only create more enemies, and probably one who is more bitter than you who will destroy you.
Forgive others if you want to be forgiven.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
We have all been hurt or experienced pain one way or another in this life. The cause might have been many things ranging from violence to rejection. No one is absolved. It is part of this life. There is always going to be some sort of pain or loss.Some get over it pretty quick and some do not. It all depends also on the degree of hurt we've suffered. Some people taking longer and need counseling to get over it, while some just enjoy being sorrowful and having everyone feel sorry for themselves. The latter is often true when it comes to failed relationships.
The problem is as human beings we are proud creatures. Pride is one thing that worsens it for us. We think we are too special and shouldn't have to go through such. We are often egocentric in nature and feel we can do as we please with no repercussions, yet we have a problem when others do the same towards us. This combined with hurt and pain, often turns to bitterness and hate towards others. Sometimes we do not want to admit that we are just being bitter, and blame it on 'I've been hurt'.
The bitterness boils so much that it ends in negative and judgmental statement all the time. You get parents tell their children not to get married because their marriage failed. They do not want to accept that it is their marriage that failed, and thus blame it on everything they can find as long as it's not them. You get youth busy influencing their friends to be promiscuous because their relationship failed and they've concluded that everyone is the same.
But there are other serious cases which arise from bitterness. Sometimes people try to destroy other because of the bitterness. When everyone is being positive, they always have to find something negative about the person. Their aim is to destroy the person but they do not realise that they are attracting negative energy towards themselves. They are constantly surrounding themselves with negative thought and actions. They are out to destroy and will stop at nothing. They may spread rumors, bash others with words or try to sabotage the other person systematically. But because they are always looking out for a negative thing to use to destroy someone, they do not see that they are attracting more negativity towards themselves, than they are dishing out to others. In the end they get addicted to the negativity and always want to be 'hurt' in order to justify their bitterness.
And if they fail, they resort to pity parties. They strive on attention and use it to reassert their bitterness and negativity. This usually happens when they have tried all their best to destroy others and have failed. They do not want to admit that they have failed, so they'd rather be the victim. This way they can paint the other person as the villain, since they are the victim. They gather people who will reassert and validate them as a victim. And the more they carry on, the deeper they go in it. Negativity is like sink sand. It strives on bitterness, hate, envy, jealousy and a victim mentality.
The truth is if everyone was to be bitter about things you did to them, you'd have more people trying to destroy you than the ones you are trying to destroy. You'd have more people with a lot of negative things to say about you than you can say about others. Get off that high horse and start being positive about life. You bitterness is sinking you in a lot of negativity that will push everyone away and destroy you in the end. You unjustified bursts of anger towards those who love you and care about you, in the name of 'I am a hurt victim' will push them away. Stop trying to destroy or bring down others because there are other people out there whom you've hurt also. Pain is not pain only when it's felt by you. Pain is pain even when you are the one causing it.
Get rid of the negativity and you will see your life turn around. Get rid of the bitterness and you will see you heart heal. Forget the pity parties and bitterness trains that you enjoy with bitter people like you, and focus more on the positive side of life. Work hard and conquer the pain instead of working hard at victimising and destroying yourself. Stop going nowhere in reverse at top speed, and start doing something positive with your. You will not get anything out of destroying the other person. You will just want to destroy more people once you are done and will only create more enemies, and probably one who is more bitter than you who will destroy you.
Forgive others if you want to be forgiven.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Wednesday, 20 March 2019
BE ALIVE AND LIVE
We seize to exist each moment
The previous second dies each moment
And we move to a new one
So we are reborn each second
We change each second and move with time
Alterations occur each moment of our life
So change is something we cannot run from
From start to now you've changed form
Not the same person as from the top
You've read this and gained something new
And the changing never stops
We smile brighter and get smarter
Some get sadder and dumber
Appreciate the change and be part of it
Enjoy the second for soon it won't exist
In fact this second right now is dead
It no longer exists and can never be gotten again
For each moment dies with time and a new one comes alive.
Move with nature. Be inspired by beauty.
Not of stature, but that of purity.
Search in you and let your thoughts take to the horizon.
Be in sync with nature and the breeze so to ride along.
Meet new people and find inspiration along the road.
Never stop seeking you within you
For within is what truly is
Find your universe within you and make your eternity
Be the answer to that which is empty
Be conscious.
Be alive.
Live.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
The previous second dies each moment
And we move to a new one
So we are reborn each second
We change each second and move with time
Alterations occur each moment of our life
So change is something we cannot run from
From start to now you've changed form
Not the same person as from the top
You've read this and gained something new
And the changing never stops
We smile brighter and get smarter
Some get sadder and dumber
Appreciate the change and be part of it
Enjoy the second for soon it won't exist
In fact this second right now is dead
It no longer exists and can never be gotten again
For each moment dies with time and a new one comes alive.
Move with nature. Be inspired by beauty.
Not of stature, but that of purity.
Search in you and let your thoughts take to the horizon.
Be in sync with nature and the breeze so to ride along.
Meet new people and find inspiration along the road.
Never stop seeking you within you
For within is what truly is
Find your universe within you and make your eternity
Be the answer to that which is empty
Be conscious.
Be alive.
Live.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Sunday, 10 March 2019
RESTRAINT OF TRADE
A company that retains its employees by limiting their ability to move to other companies, through unreasonably tight 'non-competes' or 'restraint of trade' contracts, does itself more damage. Most likely a worker will be unhappy, and thus work inefficiently. Furthermore, such employee will discourage anyone trying to work there. Word of mouth travels fast. If the employee ever finds a way of escaping, they will cause more damage on social media and the internet as a whole, through honest reviews of their experience.
Some companies go as far as using these agreements as a way to pay their employees less competitive salaries. By limiting the employee's chance of leaving to a better company within a financial viable geographical location, the employee has no choice but to stay within the employment of such a company that enforces such agreement. They realise that if they want to work for another company/organisation within their field, they would have to relocate.
Restraints of trade are fair and understandable in term of protecting company IP, but when they are used to trap employees and pay them less, they become a double edged sword which hurts both employee and employer. These employees who feel trapped become cancers which destroy the company from within.
Giving employees freedom in the workplace also frees their minds to come up with new ideas. Happy employees have no reason to leave a company. Sometimes they will be so loyal that they stay with a company even if another is promising them a little bit more in terms of pay, because they are happy and satisfied where they are. Strive for employee satisfaction.
Some companies go as far as using these agreements as a way to pay their employees less competitive salaries. By limiting the employee's chance of leaving to a better company within a financial viable geographical location, the employee has no choice but to stay within the employment of such a company that enforces such agreement. They realise that if they want to work for another company/organisation within their field, they would have to relocate.
Restraints of trade are fair and understandable in term of protecting company IP, but when they are used to trap employees and pay them less, they become a double edged sword which hurts both employee and employer. These employees who feel trapped become cancers which destroy the company from within.
Giving employees freedom in the workplace also frees their minds to come up with new ideas. Happy employees have no reason to leave a company. Sometimes they will be so loyal that they stay with a company even if another is promising them a little bit more in terms of pay, because they are happy and satisfied where they are. Strive for employee satisfaction.
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