It's time to let go

2020 was a really rough and tough year. From rewriting normal as we know it, to unexpectedly losing loved ones. Everyone has something bad they can say about 2020. If there's one thing I took out of 2020, it is that 'tomorrow is not guaranteed to anyone'. All you have is today. 

I will repeat again. Tomorrow is not guaranteed to anyone. With that being said, as we start 2021, may it be a year that we make the best of the time we have. The time we have to be our best towards ourselves and those around us. 

It is time to let go of the guilt in your heart. If you have any guilt, then go ahead and deal with it. Apologise if you have to apologise. Come clean if you have to come clean. You never know how long you have in this world, or the next person. You only have now to live free. Many of us have walked around with guilty, anger, bitterness and 'what ifs' in our hearts. 

It's time to do things differently in 2021. Those things have eaten you inside for too long. It is time to face it. Bottling it clearly is not working. It is time to let go. Speak out if you have to. Say your feelings, thoughts and fears. If you have to let go of someone, do it. If you have to start a relationship, do it. If you cheated, come clean. It doesn't matter how bad or how good it is. Come clean. If there are things you wish you had said but didn't say them, 2021 is the time to say them. Say that "I love you", "I miss you", "I'm sorry".

Say it all. Free yourself from that prison.

Say it. Let it go. Let it out. Let it run.

WITH LOVE...

Mbuelo Ramafamba

THE SHADOW MAY BE HUGE, BUT YOUR FEAR SHOULDN'T

Life throws at us all sort of curve balls. Many situations arise each and every day against us. Some bring fear. Some bring despair. Some seem very real. And for some, we see through the act. There are days when we can easily overcome mountains and there are days when we tremble and lose hope at the sight of some mountains. We often look at the inclines, cliffs and edgy parts of the stones and then think of how things could go wrong. We lose sight on what could go right.

Most of the things we face in this life are just shadows. I would love to believe everything is in fact just a shadow. No matter how big it may be, it is all a shadow. And the trick that life plays on us, is that very often, the shadow isn't a true reflection of it's owner. There's a lot of trickery involved in the whole thing. Many shadows seem very huge while the force behind it is very tiny.

Before running away from a shadow, first find out its source. Many times you will be surprised when you find out it is a very tiny force. Do not always assume that a problem is huge because fro far it looks huge. Get closer and dissect it. Get deeper into it and understand it. Only when you focus on the source, will shadows stop making you tremble.

The shadow may be huge, but your fear shouldn't.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

PUT IT ALL DOWN AND UNDO THE DAMAGE

It has been long since I last posted. And a lot has happened since. I have come to realise something that has been holding me back for so long that might also be holding some of you. The Past. Many of us who have been through painful times at the hands of someone, may think we have moved on and feel like we have moved on. In our minds, we are convinced we have moved on because we no longer think of the past.We feel we have moved on because we no longer sit down and cry about it.

However, this is a very deadly trap that will always have the past repeating itself. The reality is that, letting go of the past is not just about letting go of the pain and the memories of someone or something. One can completely forget about all these and leave them behind, while having not moved on. The biggest sign for me, was in my failure to appreciate what I currently had in life. As much as I had forgotten about the past and "moved on", there was something that was still wrong with me. When we experience things in our life, they change who we are for better or for worse. When you go through a bad experience, there is a lot that happens to your character and sense of being, which often remains behind long after we have forgotten about the painful experiences. And it is this, that was making me not realise what I had.

Due to past transgressions by others against me, my faith in humanity was very low. And as much as I had moved on, I hadn't fixed the damage that was done. It took me making mistakes and close calls with death, to realise that I needed to reflect on my life and what I had. It was then that I realised that as much as I thought I had moved on, I hadn't fixed the damage done by the past. And this is the one thing haunting many of us today. We try to forget about painful experiences and think we have moved on, while having not fixed the damage done. Some major signs of having not moved on include insecurities, lack of self-esteem/self-worth, settling etc. When you find yourself having "moved on", but without the same lively spirit that you had before, it is a sign that you have forgotten but not moved on.

Take off the memories, pains, damage and experiences you go through. Make sure you undo all the damage. Do not let it change who you are. Take it all off and leave it in the past. Only then will you experience the true freedom of moving on. 

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

THE ART OF WAITING

The past couple of months have been a big test for me. I have been tested and pushed to my limits. But most importantly, it was my patience that was being tested in order to make me a better person. And it made me realise one about myself which I have also noted in other people as well. People hate waiting.

When I took time off from writing, I had reached a point wherein I knew I wasn't going to be able to produce anything of value, and also to make all the readers wait. But let's focus on what waiting entails. I used to think waiting simply meant that if for example someone says I will come at 5, I had to sit there till they arrived. I was completely wrong.

Waiting is not about being able to 'wait' till something or someone arrives. The bigger part and lesson to waiting is the battle that starts brewing within. It more about what you do while you wait. Pay attention to what you do when you wait. Often times when we have to wait for prolonged periods, our faith is tested. It is the true test of waiting. Our reaction to the waiting gets worse with time. And often times we give up on the waiting because "we have waited for too long".

What I found was that once you get over all that inner fighting, impatience, grumbling and anger, you start to not be aware much of the fact that you are waiting and focus more on that you are on a journey and each journey has a destination. Once you shift your mindset, you start seeing things from a different and more beautiful angle.

Next time you have to wait for weeks, months or even years, remember that how you react can determine if whatever you are waiting for arrives to find you or arrives to find you gone.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

Lost In The World

Will it ever end?
Will things ever change?

This I ask myself each day
Seeing the rot that has invaded our world
The violence and wars of words
People gunning for each other's heads
And yet we say we the ultimate species.

How mankind has fallen
Hypocrisy has become our daily bread
I point you and you don't point me
I blame you but you don't blame me
But if you have money I defend you
And if it fails I destroy you
Unless you pay me to stand back
People have become worshipers of money

Spit on me and do as you please if the price is right
We have put a price tag upon our souls
For money we neglect our own homes
We forsake those that love us for those that pay us
Placing to much value on money

But what if one day all this money vanished?
What if one day all the social media went offline?
What if one day all you had left was you?
What would you be?
Would you be happy?
Or would you be someone that once lived?
Are you anything without all these things you worship?

SEARCH UNTIL YOU FIND YOU

When I first started this blogsite, I never thought I would be writing this much or getting as many views as I get. But our world is infinite and there's so much to write about. The one thing that has kept me coming back with new articles each time, is the joy of discovering myself.

Everything I write here, is either something I've been through, going through or part of me discovering myself. Sometimes I write something here which then reveals so much to me about myself. Sometimes I go back and read old posts which also help me through certain situations. But when I started, I never knew it would be this big. I never thought I could use my blog as a reference during tough times, as well as recommend it to others as well. But all you see in here is a young man discovering himself and his place in an infinite world, that's been broken.

Finding yourself is something I recommend to everyone. You won't find your complete self because everyday you will discover something new. As long as you keep searching from within, you will go from strength to strength. Just as I started this with one post, then stopped posting, to current state of being able to constantly write and post; such growth is possible for anyone. All you have to do is observe yourself, acknowledge you are incomplete, and then go on a journey to be the best you can be. Go on a journey to discover yourself. Along that journey you will discover bits and pieces which will combine to make you a much better person.

Don't get too comfortable. There is so much more you can achieve.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

WE ALL HAVE A HISTORY

Everyone has a history. It might be bad, good or both. But we all have some sort of history, some of which we are proud of and some which we are not. Part it is all part of who we are. It is a chapter in the story of our life and will follow us forever. It tells of where we have been before, and not necessarily where we are now.

There those of us whom when we have a bad history, or a history we are not proud of, we face it head on. We look back and see what went wrong, accept that we did something wrong and try to do better. We accept that it is part of our story and will stick to us no matter where we go. We understand that when we tell our story, it will be part of it, because it is our history. We own our mistakes and try to do better. And when you do that, you are not afraid of your history. It is not some boogeyman you are constantly scared will come out.

But there those who just try to shove it away and think it will just vanish and no longer become part of their lives. They do all they can to avoid it, even if it means lying to everyone about their past. They fail to understand that by accepting the past, it doesn't mean you are proud of it. We as humans are sometimes too proud to admit when we are wrong. We try to point fingers at others in order to avoid accepting our mistakes. We would rather be victims and blame others than own up to it. And when it fails, we try to run away from our past without dealing with it.

The truth is, when you are matured enough, you understand that your past just shows your mistakes which made you the better person whom you are today. It shows you've seen your wrongs and have changed to be a better person. You've learned from your mistakes. But to lie and try to hide your past is a sign of weakness. A sign that you didn't learn. A sign that you didn't change. And the worst thing about history is that it always comes back. The last thing you want is for your history to destroy something special you have today because you tried to hide through lies and scheming. When you accept it and are open about it, you live with no fear of it popping back up. It cannot be used against you.

Face your history and never lie about. Talk about it before someone else drops it like a bomb at the moment when you least expect it. When you are open about it, you are never scared of it being brought up because you have faced it. You cannot erase or rewrite your history through lies or running. You only get to write a new life by accepting your past, learning from it and doing things differently.

The truth shall set you free.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

REFLECTIONS

If life was like standing before a mirror, the past would be looking into your reflection's eyes and seeing the inner most pain, regret and mistakes. It would be the one thing few of us do. In fact, it is the one thing that few of us actually do. How many of us look deep into those eyes when standing in front of a mirror? How many of us want to think of the past?

I know many say it's best to leave the past behind, but sometimes the past will haunt you till you look at it in the eyes. Nobody wants to admit their mistakes, so we tend to avoid that inner conversation with the past. The world of today is moving away from facing things to more of "closing my eyes and hoping when I open them everything will be fine". And the sad part is, we close our eyes without praying. We run far away from anything and/or anyone that aims to correct us. We are too proud and individualistic.

But it is in the past where we learn what not to do today and tomorrow. It is in the past that we somehow get that enlightenment. You don't have to dwell in the past, but rather reflect on your progress from the past as well as checking if you are a better person or not. Are you still as naive, self centered as before? Are people still walking out of your life as before, and why? Reflecting is a way to find our mistakes and imperfection, then polishing them out. It is the only way you can plan your journey to happiness. Understanding your past and reflecting on it, will help you avoid going back to it a.k.a repeating it.

And no matter how hard you avoid reflecting, life will eventually force you to do it. On that one cold night alone. It will break you... In order to make you.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

NATURAL SELECTION

The weight of life can sometimes feel like it is too much. Sometimes it looks like things are falling apart. But it is all a matter of perspective. It is all a matter of where you look at it from. The glass is half empty, yet it is half full. It is about which side of the reality you want to be on.

Sometimes you think life is falling apart, while life is actually doing away with what you do not need and preparing you for what you need. Just because you want something doesn't necessarily mean you need it. Very often we get attached to the things we do not need but rather want. And sometimes our wants are shaped by our society and friends. We chase after all these things that we think will make us feel good, while in fact they will just add to our sorrows. It is an ever going emotionally taxing cycle.

But what if you looked at it from a different perspective when you lose all these things and people you want but do not need? What if you looked at it more as natural selection? Would it not help you let go of all these things and trust that it is the natural way that things are meant to be? Would it not help you heal and be less bitter and vengeful? Sometimes holding on to something will prevent something new from coming. Just as when a glass is full, you cannot pour anything into it. You first have to pour out what's in it, before putting in something else. And that is the problem with us. We try to force everything into one cup to fulfill our egos, and end up wondering why we have a bitter cocktail of life. You can't go mixing what's not supposed to be mixed and expect good results.

Let go. Pour out what's in your cup. Make space for what's to come. If life wants to pour it out for you, cry not. Let life pour it out, and make space for what's good for you. May you find strength and courage to accept it when life says somethings is not good for you, and to be able to let go.

WITH LOVE...
M.

INFIEARTH

We've been having InfiEarth for a long time now, and some of you may not really understand the true meaning of it. Why infinite earth? Why that name of all names? Is there more to it or is it just a name?

InfiEarth is not just a name. It an attitude and a way of life. It is a reaction to the world we live in. Our world has many problems facing it, some of which threaten it's existence.  Because we are not advancing fast enough, our world is taking punishment for it. The lack of growth and care is tearing the fabric of society. We are faced with pollution, global warming, natural disasters, hunger, poverty and pandemics. Not a week goes by without a headline concerning these matters.

We are all trying to get solutions but we fail to understand that our attitude is very important in solving this. We first need to believe that it is possible before we try to do it. We need a positive attitude and to foresee it happen. Once we believe in an infinite world where there is infinite possibilities and resources for all who live in it, then we can go onto the next step of being a solution. If each one of us were to dedicate ourselves, with belief, to bring solutions, then we will see our world become a better place.

Go out there and work towards an infinite world.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

STOP AND THINK ABOUT THIS

First of all allow me to apologise for having not written anything the past Friday and Monday. We all know Easter was upon us. I too needed some time off away from everything and just have time alone to think about my life. And something dawned on me in the middle of those thoughts. It was more of a voice in my head. "You do realise that one day you might just show up dead in a ditch right?" the voice said. I've never laughed so hard in my laugh. I mean, what could possibly lead to that? I live a very 'dull' life for most right?

Well I was missing the point. The point wasn't how I would die (God help me that I don't end up in a ditch somewhere). The point is that we are all going to die. Now as much as many may think it's okay to lazy around because you are going to die some day, I actually want to focus on the opposite to that. Ask yourself one question. If I were to show up dead in ditch tomorrow, what would people remember me for? Would I be remembered as the ditch corpse? Or would I be remembered for something more positive?

How are you living your life? That was the main aim of the voice in my head. To remind me that I need to give life my best. Very often we get too comfortable and forget to keep chasing greatness. But we forget that tomorrow is not promised. I just want to challenge all of you to go out there with positivity, aiming to be the best you can be. Contribute positively into the world and help make it a better place. That way if you end dead in a ditch somewhere, we will remember you good works. You will be remembered as the person who did a lot for society. Be an answer in this life. Spread positive energy.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

WORDS GIVE LIFE

Yes you may underestimate the art in me

The words I put and you call it poetry

For me it's only word of my revolution

A search for answers and desperate solutions

For your minds it serves as a nursery

Wise words you ought to read with cautionary

For they force man to explore his boundaries

To say his mind out fearlessly

Call me not a poet, I am not one

All of this is just words in my mind

Floods of feelings and emotions I can't overcome

Though this journey has long begun

Though in each writing I have my fun

I still search for myself day and night

I try to say out the words that cluster my mind

Like a ticking bomb that shows no time

My eyes leak as I gaze at our world

Everyday it is by sin, whirled

I will not stop till I free my world

Through this art that my voice is heard

The words in me are finally unfurled

When by words I have educated

Shined the light on those who are blinded

Peace is not found in this world

Peace is found in oneself

Express yourself, say it with words

Pick up a pen and paper and get down

Use your potent hand to dry out the ocean

Tears of endless pain and frowns

The love you seek you can make real

It only takes words to tell your story

Words can really go a long way

Through words I search for who I am

I venture off to the limits of man

I take myself the furthest I can

I create my world, and free myself

From the sin of this world and corrupt man

The universe: created by words

Words: uniting the universe 

 

I am words and my words shall be heard

I will not stop writing, even when it hurts

Even when it rains and inside I burn

Burning my umbrellla with my pain like flames

Yet feeling cold on the inside

 

Though by words I've been hurt

Each time I survive and I learn

Each day, leaves behind a story to tell

Words words words

Please world, learn to use words

Express yourself...