The past 2 months have been very challenging and eye opening for me. I got to step out of my comfort zones, and my anxiety peaked. At first I saw it as a nerve wrecking experience, but as time goes the sun has started to rise and I am seeing a completely different picture. The anxiety is still at the very same peaks it has been, but the only thing that has changed is me.
Often times when we get anxious, we feel helpless and weak. Sometimes it feels right to rather accept defeat before it even comes. It will hit you so hard that you will wish you could sleep away whatever moment is making you anxious. But there are times where in you are stuck in an environment that makes you anxious and there's no option to just get up and leave. That is where I have been the past 2 months, but not necessarily stuck. Let's just say, there's more to lose by leaving the environment and more to gain by staying, yet the anxiety peaks each and every day.
The solution is pretty simple; you just need to change the attitude towards the anxiety. Very often we suffer more because we just want it to go away. However, you do need the anxiety and to find a way to work around it. It is a good thing and you need to shift it from being a monster to being motivation to tackle whatever makes you anxious. If you see it as a monster, it wins and you will not get anything done. Whenever you try to get up and do something, the chains will hold you back and forbid you from getting work done. So you need to loosen the chains, without going to far away from it.
Think of what could get worse if you allowed the anxiety to control you. Some things are permanent, so you can't allow them to happen. It could all go wrong and you would have no way of rewriting it and getting a second chance. Think of that each time you feel the anxiety. Then think of the benefits that would come if you went through with getting something done. What would happen if you don't fail ? Anxiety says "what if you fail?". Your reply should be "What if I succeed?" or "What do I stand to lose if I give in to my anxiety?".
The reality is, if you achieve it, you then starting seeing anxiety not as much of a threat but a natural thing. It's like that one day when you finally stand up for yourself and fight off the bully. The one victory against anxiety is great motivation to do it again, because the feeling of beating it is heavenly. Do it once and you will unleash a brighter side wherein anxiety is your motivation. You will feast on it to go further and further. It's all about shifting your mindset. When anxiety throws you in the ocean, swim your way through and break records.
You've got to win those battles in order to win the war.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Thursday 20 December 2018
Thursday 13 December 2018
THE NOW: YOU
The hardest thing to do is come up with an intro to any piece. I've been typing and erasing trying to get that perfect intro. But while i was busy fighting myself trying to decide what intro to in the piece I was intending to write, something dawned on me and now we have this post.
Most of us aren't aware of it, but we struggle with intros unnecessarily. Just as I was struggling with mine, someone else might be also trying to figure out how to go about something. It might be beginning your work day at the office, or simply where to start cleaning. Very often, too much time is wasted trying to figure this out. But could there be a way to deal with this? Where does one even start?
There might be no holy grail answer for this, but allow me to try. Often times we forget that we have little to no control when it comes to what life throws at us. We may wish and pray but life decides without consulting us. How ever, we do have control over two thing; the now and ourselves. And I believe these two things are all we need to get by. One has to understand the now, and also understand the self. When you understand the now, you also understand that the now only exists for now and if you miss it it's gone. So there's no time to think besides just doing it now because the now may be all you have. When you understand the now, you understand that you can only control what you do now, and should do what you can do and move on to the next. Sometimes it may also dawn on you that you actually are in the wrong place, and when it does, do not hesitate to go to the right place.
The one that is rather more difficult to grasp is the self. Most of us think we understand ourselves but do not realise we only understand what we wish to be and not what we truly are. This is the reason why so many of us stay in toxic situation which end up destroying us because we do not take time to understand who we are. We often deny who we are for who we wish to be and thus never realise our full potential. Without knowing the self, we end up falling victim to the pressures of society, and ultimately dig our own graves and then bury ourselves in it. Know yourself no matter how bad you are and only then will you be able to build yourself up. Stop wanting a fully built house, and start realising you have the material and should build it yourself.
In the end of it all, it's all about THE NOW and YOU.
With love...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Most of us aren't aware of it, but we struggle with intros unnecessarily. Just as I was struggling with mine, someone else might be also trying to figure out how to go about something. It might be beginning your work day at the office, or simply where to start cleaning. Very often, too much time is wasted trying to figure this out. But could there be a way to deal with this? Where does one even start?
There might be no holy grail answer for this, but allow me to try. Often times we forget that we have little to no control when it comes to what life throws at us. We may wish and pray but life decides without consulting us. How ever, we do have control over two thing; the now and ourselves. And I believe these two things are all we need to get by. One has to understand the now, and also understand the self. When you understand the now, you also understand that the now only exists for now and if you miss it it's gone. So there's no time to think besides just doing it now because the now may be all you have. When you understand the now, you understand that you can only control what you do now, and should do what you can do and move on to the next. Sometimes it may also dawn on you that you actually are in the wrong place, and when it does, do not hesitate to go to the right place.
The one that is rather more difficult to grasp is the self. Most of us think we understand ourselves but do not realise we only understand what we wish to be and not what we truly are. This is the reason why so many of us stay in toxic situation which end up destroying us because we do not take time to understand who we are. We often deny who we are for who we wish to be and thus never realise our full potential. Without knowing the self, we end up falling victim to the pressures of society, and ultimately dig our own graves and then bury ourselves in it. Know yourself no matter how bad you are and only then will you be able to build yourself up. Stop wanting a fully built house, and start realising you have the material and should build it yourself.
In the end of it all, it's all about THE NOW and YOU.
With love...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Tuesday 11 December 2018
It isn't ours to keep
It has taken me years of observation, trying to figure out the cause of many of our world's problems. There's just too much going on, that there must be some sort of cause for this. I would love to say I found the cause but I haven't .
And what I found is life. Our lives are what bothers us and causes us to not achieve much. We often think that life is ours or that we own it. So most of the times we go out to try and never die. The reason many get rich, exercise etc, is because deep down we all don't want to die. The reason we have corruption, crime etc, is because someone is just trying to survive; that is to not die.
We are all so obsessed with living forever that we forget DEATH IS AN EVENTUALITY. It doesn't matter how long you try to delay it, but death is bound to happen. The reason we are on earth is not to delay or fight death, but to just simply live. We do not have to amass so much of this world's vanities. The reality is our lives aren't ours to keep. That fact alone should be enough to teach us that it is better to have peace, and be peaceful and loving while on earth.
Your life is not yours to keep, so do not waste the privilege. Love, teach, be kind and share peace in this life. Accept life for what it is and let go of all thoughts. Start each new day as blank paper waiting to paint on it a bright and colourful picture.
Enjoy life. It isn't yours to keep. Do not fear death, for you will live in fear forever. Embrace it and understand that death is the end point to life on earth, and there's no escaping it. We are all going to die. NOTHING IN THIS WORLD IS OURS TO KEEP. WE ALL DIE AND LIVE IT BEHIND.
VANITY.
With Love...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
And what I found is life. Our lives are what bothers us and causes us to not achieve much. We often think that life is ours or that we own it. So most of the times we go out to try and never die. The reason many get rich, exercise etc, is because deep down we all don't want to die. The reason we have corruption, crime etc, is because someone is just trying to survive; that is to not die.
We are all so obsessed with living forever that we forget DEATH IS AN EVENTUALITY. It doesn't matter how long you try to delay it, but death is bound to happen. The reason we are on earth is not to delay or fight death, but to just simply live. We do not have to amass so much of this world's vanities. The reality is our lives aren't ours to keep. That fact alone should be enough to teach us that it is better to have peace, and be peaceful and loving while on earth.
Your life is not yours to keep, so do not waste the privilege. Love, teach, be kind and share peace in this life. Accept life for what it is and let go of all thoughts. Start each new day as blank paper waiting to paint on it a bright and colourful picture.
Enjoy life. It isn't yours to keep. Do not fear death, for you will live in fear forever. Embrace it and understand that death is the end point to life on earth, and there's no escaping it. We are all going to die. NOTHING IN THIS WORLD IS OURS TO KEEP. WE ALL DIE AND LIVE IT BEHIND.
VANITY.
With Love...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Born Free But Planted
Born Free But Planted
We are born
Born free to die yet we never die
Each time we are seeded
And we become trees by the side of the road
Waving with the winds as thousands drive by
Forever there and having not reached our destination
We wither and blossom with the seasons
Ever growing with no waters near by
Nourished by the blood of those who perish
Each day another soul is distracted
The innocent seeded by the reckless
But the trees grow by the numbers
And remain by the side of the roads
We never die
We become trees
And give shadows to the crosses and flowers
The ones you leave in pain and regret.
If you knew it was the last goodbye
You'd have given us those flowers in person
Or better yet preached to us the gospel
But now all that is left is hope
Hopeless hope that we make heaven
Hopeless hope that we forgive
Hopeless hope that we know we were loved
But the winds blow us to and fro
For we are trees
Growing by the wayside
We are born
Born free to die yet we never die
Each time we are seeded
And we become trees by the side of the road
Waving with the winds as thousands drive by
Forever there and having not reached our destination
We wither and blossom with the seasons
Ever growing with no waters near by
Nourished by the blood of those who perish
Each day another soul is distracted
The innocent seeded by the reckless
But the trees grow by the numbers
And remain by the side of the roads
We never die
We become trees
And give shadows to the crosses and flowers
The ones you leave in pain and regret.
If you knew it was the last goodbye
You'd have given us those flowers in person
Or better yet preached to us the gospel
But now all that is left is hope
Hopeless hope that we make heaven
Hopeless hope that we forgive
Hopeless hope that we know we were loved
But the winds blow us to and fro
For we are trees
Growing by the wayside
Monday 10 December 2018
Sometimes it's just "OKAY"
Life is a master of curveballs. It doesn't matter who you are, but one way or another you will get it. Sometimes it happens time and time again. You go onto the ground expecting it and ready for it but it still gets you. That is the unfortunate truth about life.
Situations in life will keep happening and trying to knock us down. Sometimes we will be left devastated. Even with all the preparation, there are times when things are just bound to explode in our faces. It doesn't matter the intentions behind it or how innocent we may be, but when it's your day, it's your day.
No matter how much of it keeps happening, one should never give up on life. You may want to shift positions and do something different but never give up trying to make a better future for yourself. It is OKAY to get hit hard. It is OKAY to feel like you have fought long and hard and it about time you gave up. It is OKAY. All those thought are OKAY. And maybe some of them are correct and you should act on them.
But at the end of the day, you must know that sometimes you need to step back and let go of it all. Sometimes you just want to restart. Sometimes it is OKAY to let go and rest. Resting doesn't mean it's over. It only means you are tired. And it's OKAY. It's OKAY to lose the battle. You may have lost this battle but the journey ahead is still long. Unchain yourself. Don't feel bad. It's OKAY to fail. Embrace it and start over.
Sometimes the joy of life is not in always winning, but in losing and always coming back from a different angle until your day comes to WIN ONCE AND FOR ALL.
WITH LOVE..
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Situations in life will keep happening and trying to knock us down. Sometimes we will be left devastated. Even with all the preparation, there are times when things are just bound to explode in our faces. It doesn't matter the intentions behind it or how innocent we may be, but when it's your day, it's your day.
No matter how much of it keeps happening, one should never give up on life. You may want to shift positions and do something different but never give up trying to make a better future for yourself. It is OKAY to get hit hard. It is OKAY to feel like you have fought long and hard and it about time you gave up. It is OKAY. All those thought are OKAY. And maybe some of them are correct and you should act on them.
But at the end of the day, you must know that sometimes you need to step back and let go of it all. Sometimes you just want to restart. Sometimes it is OKAY to let go and rest. Resting doesn't mean it's over. It only means you are tired. And it's OKAY. It's OKAY to lose the battle. You may have lost this battle but the journey ahead is still long. Unchain yourself. Don't feel bad. It's OKAY to fail. Embrace it and start over.
Sometimes the joy of life is not in always winning, but in losing and always coming back from a different angle until your day comes to WIN ONCE AND FOR ALL.
WITH LOVE..
Mbuelo Ramafamba
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