Hello guys.
I just thought i should let you know that I will not be able to write for a few weeks due to some terrible events that took place Firday 22 February. I will be back as soon as I am over the whole thing.
Report all crime near you. Even if it is someone you know and love.
Tuesday 26 February 2019
Wednesday 20 February 2019
APPRECIATE
What a world we live in. A world filled with adventures,
misfortunes, joy and sadness. It all happens whenever it wants to and nothing
we do or say can stop it from happening if it's meant to happen. It is all part
of life. There's so much beauty in this life. This world is truly
infinite.
Let's consider the beauty of
meeting new people and appreciating people around us. This is something I feel
is important to talk about because our world lacks regarding appreciating
people around us. When we live we always meet new people each with their own
character. Some of them are angels, and some are demons. But my focus is on the
angels, as I wouldn't advice that you keep demons around you. We meet people
and sometimes we fall in love. Sometimes we become friends. But often we forget
the importance of the person until they are gone. We never stop to appreciate
the person until it's too late.
What usually happens is that
when we meet good people, we often take them for granted and assume they will
always be like that. We think to ourselves, "he/she will never forsake
me" or "he/she will always love me". While it may be true that a
person may always love you, it is foolish to assume that such a person can
never leave. With most of these assumptions, we end up taking advantage of the
person. We use their kindness and love against them. Each time we are the ones
always being forgiven for something. We are the ones always being assisted. We
develop a feeling of being untouchable and start thinking it's because we are
smart. Slowly with time we end up thinking we can get away with anything.
Instead of appreciating and doing good in return, we just use the other person
for our own satisfaction. The other person sacrifices all, but we choose to
carry on doing as we please. Sometimes we spend our time trying to please those
who do not even notice us or care about us, while mistreating the one person
who would walk a thousand miles for us.
Unfortunately, most times this
doesn't end very well. Something is bound to go wrong that will expose
everything that has been happening. And usually this happens around the time
when we need the person most. When need all the sacrifice that person has been
doing. But by then it is too late, and the person is tired of forgiving or sacrificing
everything. It is a point where the person has realised they were being taken
advantage of and it is time to walk away. At that stage, we often look back in
regret and wish we could take back our action. But we had all the time to
change and didn't change. We had all the time to do what's right, but we chose
to be 'smart'. In the end there's no one to blame but us.
Never take advantage of a
person because you never know when you will need them most. Always remind them
of how much you appreciate them and be kind to them.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Monday 18 February 2019
WE ARE ALL JUST PIECES OF A PUZZLE
Running a blog is not easy. You always must find something with
value to offer your readers. It's much harder when you are first starting out
and having a small circle of readers. It is easy to give up everything.
However, it takes a special form of realisation to be able to carry on writing
even if it means only one person reading your blog.
Everyone is equally important.
It is the realisation of this that has given me strength to write again. Even if there was only one soul reading my blogs, I'd still carry on because that one person is just as important as a thousand people. Besides helping me to write again, it has taught me a very powerful lesson
about life and people. These days it is very easy to disregard a person simply
because we think we do not need them. With the influence of social media and
the desire to fit into the higher class, we often find ourselves discarding
people. Sometimes we feel that we are way above such people or better than
them.
We fail to understand that we
are all like pieces to a puzzle. Without that one person, the puzzle is not
complete. Everyone we come across has a purpose to serve. Some bring us memories,
and some give us lesson. While this may sound like it's against discarding a
person, it isn’t. What this is against, is discarding someone from the moment
we meet them. It's okay to cut off someone after they have hurt you or 'taught
you a lesson'. But do not just simply judge a book by its cover. Many times, I
too, have been disregarded before the person even knew my name. And funny
enough, most times the people end up realising the mistake they have made but
by then they have missed out on a lot. Sometimes the very same people end
needing my help. I am not innocent myself either. I am guilty of having done it
before.
Give everyone a chance because
you never know when/if you will need the person tomorrow. That person you are
being rude to because they aren't your type or in your class, might hold the
answer to your success one day. That same person might help you in life
threatening circumstances. Remember to be kind to everyone, so they remember
your kindness next time you need their assistance. And never say never.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Friday 15 February 2019
LISTEN
Whoever said listening was skill knew exactly what they were talking about. It one skill that many do not have. It is a skill many are not aware or will not admit that they do not have. And it is one skill that can not be taught by someone else. It is self taught.
It's evident in our everyday life how much people never want to listen. Everybody only wants to be heard, but never wants to listen. We have so many differences today because people just don't want to listen. Everyone is imposing their view on others because they do not want to listen. Without listening you can never understand, and thus you can never assist. People go out creating all sorts of groups but never stop to listen.
Families are getting divided because nobody wants to listen. Everyone is shouting at the top of their lungs trying to be heard but they don't want to listen. Even if given a chance to speak, they still never listen. Most people just want to be heard, but never want to listen. One reason some people don't want to listen is because they do not want to face their reality. They do not want to be told the truth. So they choose to shout and shout, and cry victim when no one wants to listen to them anymore because they do give a chance to others to speak. And then everything goes south after that, because both sides will now want to be heard.
It has become like a disease that is destroying our world. People now have to take to the street and shout there, but sometimes nobody even bothers to listen. Even the people on the streets sometimes never listen. Listening is the only way to resolve matters and reach a win win situation. But we barely get that because people haven't been listening for so long that they have become selfish. Everyone believes they are right and their ways are perfect, and the other is wrong. And whoever disagrees is an oppressor. It has become a matter of 'Who can shout the loudest' instead of 'Who is right'. People follow the loudest because they do not want to listen. They want the noise, but do not want to listen. Logic and reason get thrown out many times because people do not want to listen.
I challenge you to start listening. Be calm, observe the silence and listen. Because in our lack of listening skill, we have brewed a disaster. We've become so bad at listening that we never stop to listen to ourselves.
Stop, be calm and listen.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
It's evident in our everyday life how much people never want to listen. Everybody only wants to be heard, but never wants to listen. We have so many differences today because people just don't want to listen. Everyone is imposing their view on others because they do not want to listen. Without listening you can never understand, and thus you can never assist. People go out creating all sorts of groups but never stop to listen.
Families are getting divided because nobody wants to listen. Everyone is shouting at the top of their lungs trying to be heard but they don't want to listen. Even if given a chance to speak, they still never listen. Most people just want to be heard, but never want to listen. One reason some people don't want to listen is because they do not want to face their reality. They do not want to be told the truth. So they choose to shout and shout, and cry victim when no one wants to listen to them anymore because they do give a chance to others to speak. And then everything goes south after that, because both sides will now want to be heard.
It has become like a disease that is destroying our world. People now have to take to the street and shout there, but sometimes nobody even bothers to listen. Even the people on the streets sometimes never listen. Listening is the only way to resolve matters and reach a win win situation. But we barely get that because people haven't been listening for so long that they have become selfish. Everyone believes they are right and their ways are perfect, and the other is wrong. And whoever disagrees is an oppressor. It has become a matter of 'Who can shout the loudest' instead of 'Who is right'. People follow the loudest because they do not want to listen. They want the noise, but do not want to listen. Logic and reason get thrown out many times because people do not want to listen.
I challenge you to start listening. Be calm, observe the silence and listen. Because in our lack of listening skill, we have brewed a disaster. We've become so bad at listening that we never stop to listen to ourselves.
Stop, be calm and listen.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Wednesday 13 February 2019
HEAL YOURSELF
The trials of life never end. Day by day we are being tried. There is always something that might break us or make us. Sometimes we break, sometimes we pretend not to break. And then there are those times where we remain unshaken. Our tolerance may be different, but one thing for sure; life will find a way to break you. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with life breaking you. But there it wrong for you to say broken. A broken heart will take you to your grave very early.
I too have had my moments with life. There were times when it broke me and I thought I could never come back. I had given in completely. It never got better. It became even worse when I gave up. I needed a solution, but I was looking for it at the wrong places. I was trying to understand why such misfortune had chosen me.Why did I have to be heartbroken. I had many other questions, all which sought an answer from the without.
But starting from within is the right way to approach it. Find the part that's sore the most, and ask yourself how you could heal it. Sometimes, the medicine we seek is us. We often neglect ourselves and give away all the love. We go all out to love others and give very little love to ourselves. We take our bricks and use them to build others. And when rain comes, we wonder why we have no shelter. And what we often fail to understand is that, by loving ourselves, we learn how to truly love. We learn how to treat others better by treating ourselves better. What we want for ourselves is what we will want for others. By loving ourselves, we make it easier and better for us to love others. We find happiness within us.
Not only do we find happiness, but we also become our own bestfriend. And we get to know ourselves so well that when something is not right we quickly pick it up. This helps avoid disasters caused by issues piling up unattended. We become much easier to live with and to love and be loved. We also learn to heal ourselves without much external forces. By healing ourselves, we become independent, and are less likely to seek validation outside of our being.
Love yourself. Heal yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be your bestfriend.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
I too have had my moments with life. There were times when it broke me and I thought I could never come back. I had given in completely. It never got better. It became even worse when I gave up. I needed a solution, but I was looking for it at the wrong places. I was trying to understand why such misfortune had chosen me.Why did I have to be heartbroken. I had many other questions, all which sought an answer from the without.
But starting from within is the right way to approach it. Find the part that's sore the most, and ask yourself how you could heal it. Sometimes, the medicine we seek is us. We often neglect ourselves and give away all the love. We go all out to love others and give very little love to ourselves. We take our bricks and use them to build others. And when rain comes, we wonder why we have no shelter. And what we often fail to understand is that, by loving ourselves, we learn how to truly love. We learn how to treat others better by treating ourselves better. What we want for ourselves is what we will want for others. By loving ourselves, we make it easier and better for us to love others. We find happiness within us.
Not only do we find happiness, but we also become our own bestfriend. And we get to know ourselves so well that when something is not right we quickly pick it up. This helps avoid disasters caused by issues piling up unattended. We become much easier to live with and to love and be loved. We also learn to heal ourselves without much external forces. By healing ourselves, we become independent, and are less likely to seek validation outside of our being.
Love yourself. Heal yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be your bestfriend.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Monday 11 February 2019
WE ARE WHAT ARE BECAUSE IT'S WHO WE ARE
I was having a conversation with a friend I recently made. We were going on about life and what it's like to grow up, to love, to be kind and to be selfless. She is very selfless and kind. I too naturally tend to be very selfless and kind to others. I go out of my way to help others. However, I am not going to be writing much about the good things I do but rather addressing a common misconception.
When people are kind and selfless, sometimes it doesn't rub off well with some people. It might be envy or it might be outright hate, but you get people who criticise someone for being kind and selfless. They may even spread rumours to try and tarnish the name of the person. It's like they are in competition with the person yet do the complete opposite of what the person does. They want to be seen and given attention, but do not want to be kind to others. They want people to call them good, but go about with a self centered and selfish attitude. In the end, they end up saying the person is pretending, or the person wants to be loved. But what they do not realise, is that they are merely stating who they are. But sometimes, the good people get affected by this and may lose that magic of kindness, love and selflessness. The reason I am writing this is to encourage and remind them that they are who they are because it is who they are, and they are not pretending or trying to be loved.
Good people do what they do because it is who they are. They do it without expecting anything in return. The do a lot, and will never go back to remind the person they have helped. Sometimes the person they have helped may become too proud, but they still remain humble and never remind the person. They give people more chances than they deserve. Even if people do not notice their efforts, they do not notice it because they are not doing it to be noticed. Had they been doing it to be noticed, they'd have given up already because they barely ever get noticed for who they are. They are like the elephant in the room that nobody notices. And they keep doing what they do.
However, they are still human. If they endure too much abuse, they get to a point where they are fed up. They usually never say it, but rather cut off the person. And it hurts them to cut off a person, but to protect their sanity and to carry on doing the good work, they need to cut off bad energy. It is not that they bad or hold grudges. They just know what they carry and do not want anything to hold them back. It is okay to cut off the bad ones. But always remember, they do not want to be loved, or given attention. It is simply who they are. However, appreciating them really encourages them to self sacrifice in quest of a better world.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
When people are kind and selfless, sometimes it doesn't rub off well with some people. It might be envy or it might be outright hate, but you get people who criticise someone for being kind and selfless. They may even spread rumours to try and tarnish the name of the person. It's like they are in competition with the person yet do the complete opposite of what the person does. They want to be seen and given attention, but do not want to be kind to others. They want people to call them good, but go about with a self centered and selfish attitude. In the end, they end up saying the person is pretending, or the person wants to be loved. But what they do not realise, is that they are merely stating who they are. But sometimes, the good people get affected by this and may lose that magic of kindness, love and selflessness. The reason I am writing this is to encourage and remind them that they are who they are because it is who they are, and they are not pretending or trying to be loved.
Good people do what they do because it is who they are. They do it without expecting anything in return. The do a lot, and will never go back to remind the person they have helped. Sometimes the person they have helped may become too proud, but they still remain humble and never remind the person. They give people more chances than they deserve. Even if people do not notice their efforts, they do not notice it because they are not doing it to be noticed. Had they been doing it to be noticed, they'd have given up already because they barely ever get noticed for who they are. They are like the elephant in the room that nobody notices. And they keep doing what they do.
However, they are still human. If they endure too much abuse, they get to a point where they are fed up. They usually never say it, but rather cut off the person. And it hurts them to cut off a person, but to protect their sanity and to carry on doing the good work, they need to cut off bad energy. It is not that they bad or hold grudges. They just know what they carry and do not want anything to hold them back. It is okay to cut off the bad ones. But always remember, they do not want to be loved, or given attention. It is simply who they are. However, appreciating them really encourages them to self sacrifice in quest of a better world.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Friday 8 February 2019
PAUSE
This week has gone by fast. I too was moving as fast as it was.
Maybe a little bit too fast. But today it dawned on me that I needed to pause a
bit. It is not wrong or bad to pause. It is needed, and often new ideas are
born during or after the pause.
When you pause, you detach a bit and watch everything from
the background. It is during that time that you see everything. You understand
how the environment around you works together and each piece is needed for the
greater functionality of the universe. You also get to see which parts around
you need more attention and work than others. Without a pause you will never
see these minor bits which may mess up the functionality of everything around
you. It takes a brick to bring down a whole castle.
Every now and then, take a small pause. Detach from all the
noise and clear your thoughts. With a clear mind you can easily come up with
newer ideas on how to get things working better. During a moment of pause, you
get to see everything as a mind map. You see how they are all connected, and
how you could reconfigure everything for efficiency. The better efficiency you
have, the less work you do and get to rest. A well-rested body function far
better than one that has not rested. So, you can see how a pause, opens
everything. It’s more like when you pause a movie; you get to see each detail
of the scene which you might have missed had you not paused. It’s exactly like
that even in real life.
Remember to pause and look at things from a little distance
whenever it seems like things are working so well.
WITH LOVE…
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Thursday 7 February 2019
LETTING GO JUST LIKE A BALLOON
If you tied a rope or chain around a tree, the tree will eventually
swallow it and become one with it. Sometimes the tree may experience some
deformities. And depending on where the chain or rope is tied around, the tree
may even die off or lose its branch. Why am I saying this you ask? I shall
answer you shortly.
In life, we go through many things and experience a lot of
problems which may depress us. Some of them may be external ones brought by
other people, or just occurring naturally. Just like a tree, these problems
wrap around us. As time goes, they may start to choke us and threaten our sanity.
Sometimes we get used to it that we end up saying “I am used to it” or “I’ve
been here before”. We do not realise that all that’s needed is to untie it and
let it go.
Instead of dying, I’d like to challenge you to start letting
go of things. Sometimes you can’t let go because you haven’t forgiven yourself.
Forgive yourself first before forgiving anyone and see how much weight you put
down. Forgiving yourself is to begin to untie the knot. Once the knot is untied,
the rest falls away.
When you start with yourself, everything becomes like a balloon.
Let go like a balloon. Let go of all your problems and watch them fly away. The
thing that was holding them to you was the rope around you. Once you let it go,
the balloons are no longer tied to you. Each problem is like a small balloon tied
to that rope that’s choking you. You get distracted as they pile up because
there are just too many balloons around you with many colours. You can’t pop
them, because the noise will be too much, and it will bring too much attention.
Simply untie the rope around you and the whole bunch will be gone.
Forgive yourself to forgive others. Untie the rope, and let
it all go.
WITH LOVE…
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Monday 4 February 2019
SPREAD LIKE WILD FIRE
Fire is a beautiful thing, yet deadly and dangerous. Just as too much of something isn't good, too much of fire isn't good either. But worry not, we are not about to start any real fires. Today's fire is a kind of fire that doesn't have "too much" of it. The more of it the better. It works best when you let it burn and engulf everyone around you.
We live in a sad world with sad people and often the energy is low around us. There's just so much going on that people have become detached from themselves. I am not judging anyone in anyway whatsoever by writing this. My aim is to spark a fire that will burn wildly.
There are things in this life that we need not buy nor have a lot of money to attain. These things are free from everyone and do not depend on any external factors. Happiness is one of those. It is a very powerful force that will give you complete control and power over your life. You do not need anyone or anything to be happy. Although it sometimes takes some practice to master being happy, it all begins with a smile.
You will be surprised at how much a simple smile can achieve. It starts with you smiling at someone and them smiling back at you, and the next thing you will feel this energy get invoked. That is the happiness lying dormant inside of you being awakened by simply smiling. Now to be happy, you need to smile daily to as many people as possible. By smiling, you naturally become nice and kind. It's almost impossible to be rude or bad towards someone when you are smiling. Smiling also gives you so much peace as well. The more people you smile at, the more people smile back at you, and the happier you become. The first smile is like a spark. The more you smile, the more you let the fire burn wild. Spread smiles like a wildfire and see how much happier you become.
In the end, you will have productive and focused days because you will be much happier. You mind gets defogged by the happiness and you tend to achieve much more by simply being happy. I must warn you though, that your days will feel a lot shorter because you will be enjoying every second of it and getting a lot of work done.
It doesn't take much to smile. Go out and smile. Spread like wild fire.
WITH LOVE..
Mbuelo Ramafamba
We live in a sad world with sad people and often the energy is low around us. There's just so much going on that people have become detached from themselves. I am not judging anyone in anyway whatsoever by writing this. My aim is to spark a fire that will burn wildly.
There are things in this life that we need not buy nor have a lot of money to attain. These things are free from everyone and do not depend on any external factors. Happiness is one of those. It is a very powerful force that will give you complete control and power over your life. You do not need anyone or anything to be happy. Although it sometimes takes some practice to master being happy, it all begins with a smile.
You will be surprised at how much a simple smile can achieve. It starts with you smiling at someone and them smiling back at you, and the next thing you will feel this energy get invoked. That is the happiness lying dormant inside of you being awakened by simply smiling. Now to be happy, you need to smile daily to as many people as possible. By smiling, you naturally become nice and kind. It's almost impossible to be rude or bad towards someone when you are smiling. Smiling also gives you so much peace as well. The more people you smile at, the more people smile back at you, and the happier you become. The first smile is like a spark. The more you smile, the more you let the fire burn wild. Spread smiles like a wildfire and see how much happier you become.
In the end, you will have productive and focused days because you will be much happier. You mind gets defogged by the happiness and you tend to achieve much more by simply being happy. I must warn you though, that your days will feel a lot shorter because you will be enjoying every second of it and getting a lot of work done.
It doesn't take much to smile. Go out and smile. Spread like wild fire.
WITH LOVE..
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Friday 1 February 2019
JUMP
Life will always have a way of throwing us into situations that will make us experience all sorts of feelings. But one actually stood out for me today after witnessing a minor accident while on my way to work. No one was hurt in the accident, but the accident got me thinking of how it might have been to be in that vehicle. Fear got hold of me instantly, thinking of the fact that I was also in transit. And as always, it got me reflecting on how much fear often hinders us from achieving a lot of things.
So many of us abandon many mission because of fear. But fear is a double-edged sword. It can either make you or break you. For those who give in, it breaks them. For those who find adventure in it, it makes them. But there's only 2 ways to it. BREAK OR MAKE. But how do you tackle fear and come out victorious all the time? Well, let me sum it up in a short poem that I wrote for myself:
Take a step back son
Open your eyes wide
Take in the view
And scale it.
It can't be that big right?
Or maybe it is.
Not a lot has caved in
Sure it's not a crack
But it can't be that big.
Either way you can't go back
And there's no way it can be fixed.
You've come far
You've seen worse
You have no choice
Backward and forward are all the same
Will you stay in one place?
Sit down and tremble like a small boy?
Or will you move to another place?
The bridge has caved in both sides
Scale it hard kid
Prepare yourself
Close your eyes
And jump
Or stay and starve.
But always remember
Do not open your eyes
Until your feet touch the other side.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
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