Today I will be carrying on with the theme on waiting. I feel there's a lot to say about the experience of waiting which I unfortunately cannot fit into one post. So please bare with me.
The one thing that is common in everyone who is waiting is need. We wait because we need something. I am not referring to waiting for a person, though you can wait for a person whom you need.I am referring to waiting for something to happen that you feel will better your life. There's always a burning desire/need that fuels the waiting. Either you are waiting for a job, a start-up funder etc, the reality is there is a need behind all the waiting.
How deep the desire is, will influence the emotions you go through while you wait. If you are in deep need, it will always feel like a lifetime. But one thing you have to understand is that, if you really need something and you value it that much, then you will have to burn for it. There's no other way besides burning. You have to burn and burn you shall.
The mistake many make is decide to try something else and forget about what they have been waiting for, because they can't take the heat of waiting. If it is really worth much for you, you will burn for it. You sit in that furnace and wait patiently. I too have been in situations wherein quitting felt like a better option. It seemed like things were falling apart. But sometimes things have to fall apart for you to appreciate what is to come. If you didn't have to wait and burn, you wouldn't value it.
It doesn't end in waiting though. You have to be a visionary while you wait. Envision the wait coming to an end. What will you need to better take advantage of whatever you are waiting for. In what circumstances must you be in? Just as a fighter trains hard for a big fighter, you too need to ready yourself for what you are waiting for. Otherwise you will squander it. Sometimes it won't arrive until you have prepared yourself enough. You need to need to be prepared for it.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Showing posts with label Lessons. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Lessons. Show all posts
Wednesday, 17 July 2019
Monday, 15 July 2019
THE ART OF WAITING
The past couple of months have been a big test for me. I have been tested and pushed to my limits. But most importantly, it was my patience that was being tested in order to make me a better person. And it made me realise one about myself which I have also noted in other people as well. People hate waiting.
When I took time off from writing, I had reached a point wherein I knew I wasn't going to be able to produce anything of value, and also to make all the readers wait. But let's focus on what waiting entails. I used to think waiting simply meant that if for example someone says I will come at 5, I had to sit there till they arrived. I was completely wrong.
Waiting is not about being able to 'wait' till something or someone arrives. The bigger part and lesson to waiting is the battle that starts brewing within. It more about what you do while you wait. Pay attention to what you do when you wait. Often times when we have to wait for prolonged periods, our faith is tested. It is the true test of waiting. Our reaction to the waiting gets worse with time. And often times we give up on the waiting because "we have waited for too long".
What I found was that once you get over all that inner fighting, impatience, grumbling and anger, you start to not be aware much of the fact that you are waiting and focus more on that you are on a journey and each journey has a destination. Once you shift your mindset, you start seeing things from a different and more beautiful angle.
Next time you have to wait for weeks, months or even years, remember that how you react can determine if whatever you are waiting for arrives to find you or arrives to find you gone.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
When I took time off from writing, I had reached a point wherein I knew I wasn't going to be able to produce anything of value, and also to make all the readers wait. But let's focus on what waiting entails. I used to think waiting simply meant that if for example someone says I will come at 5, I had to sit there till they arrived. I was completely wrong.
Waiting is not about being able to 'wait' till something or someone arrives. The bigger part and lesson to waiting is the battle that starts brewing within. It more about what you do while you wait. Pay attention to what you do when you wait. Often times when we have to wait for prolonged periods, our faith is tested. It is the true test of waiting. Our reaction to the waiting gets worse with time. And often times we give up on the waiting because "we have waited for too long".
What I found was that once you get over all that inner fighting, impatience, grumbling and anger, you start to not be aware much of the fact that you are waiting and focus more on that you are on a journey and each journey has a destination. Once you shift your mindset, you start seeing things from a different and more beautiful angle.
Next time you have to wait for weeks, months or even years, remember that how you react can determine if whatever you are waiting for arrives to find you or arrives to find you gone.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Wednesday, 15 May 2019
WHAT COULD HAPPEN NEXT?
Everything in this life is about choices. We are always going to make choices. The choice to wake up. The choice not to. Life always gives you many choices. It also gives you the choice to sit down and say I have no choice. Each and everyone of the choices we make will influence the set of choices life offers to us next time. It will also have consequences. And that is the thing that is troubling.
It is very important to not rush to taking a decision each time. Even with the small choices, because there's always going to be an after effect. Sometimes we the effects come when we've forgotten about the choices we made. Always stop, even if it's for a second, and ask yourself "what could happen next if you made a certain choice".
If someone shouts at you, what could happen next if you shouted back? If someone cheated on you, what could happen if your cheated back? If someone lied to you what could happen next if you stopped trusting whatever they say? Every choice is always going to have an outcome. Very often, when in the moment, we never stop to think of the outcomes. We let the moment tell us what choices to make, sometimes leading to regret.
Every choice you make right now will affect your path of life, either instantly or some time in the future. Always pause, and ask yourself, "What could happen next?".
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
It is very important to not rush to taking a decision each time. Even with the small choices, because there's always going to be an after effect. Sometimes we the effects come when we've forgotten about the choices we made. Always stop, even if it's for a second, and ask yourself "what could happen next if you made a certain choice".
If someone shouts at you, what could happen next if you shouted back? If someone cheated on you, what could happen if your cheated back? If someone lied to you what could happen next if you stopped trusting whatever they say? Every choice is always going to have an outcome. Very often, when in the moment, we never stop to think of the outcomes. We let the moment tell us what choices to make, sometimes leading to regret.
Every choice you make right now will affect your path of life, either instantly or some time in the future. Always pause, and ask yourself, "What could happen next?".
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Wednesday, 1 May 2019
USE YOUR TIME WISELY
Being a youth is a blessing. A blessing many seem to misunderstand. You ought to enjoy your youthful. However, many mistake enjoying their youth for destroying their future. It is common sight these days. Youth throwing their youthfulness away in the name of "Enjoying being young".
So how are we supposed to enjoy our youth? A simple line I always says to myself sums it all up. "Stay awake now, and sleep later". I know some of you may get jumpy thinking I mean stay awake all night drinking your youth away, and sleep the whole weekend. Unfortunately, that is not what I mean. It more about understanding that you have the energy, brains and time now, than you will have in the next 10 years.
It is best to stay awake now, working towards building your future, so when you get old you get to sleep in peace. Work hard while you are still your own dependent or have few dependents, as a time will come where they will be others crying. If you do not prepare now, you will never sleep when you get old. But if you prepare now, they will not bother you when they arrive. Many of us just want joy and fun, and we want it now. We think we will stay young forever. But we don't stay young forever; neither do we live forever.
Being a youth means you have time to make the foundation that your future self will be cemented on. Sometimes it will feel like it's not worth it, as you work so hard and see little results. But very often, this teaches us lesson and gives us experiences which will come in handy in the future. Use the time you have now to learn as much as you can. Instead of going out each weekend, have time indoors wherein you read and watch videos and new, relating to your career or business.
The truth is, if you work hard now, you will have enough reason and time to celebrate in the future. But if you try to celebrate the minuscule achievement now, you will have nothing to celebrate in the future. You may as well be celebrating your future downfall and lack. Prioritise what is important and put in effort and time.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
So how are we supposed to enjoy our youth? A simple line I always says to myself sums it all up. "Stay awake now, and sleep later". I know some of you may get jumpy thinking I mean stay awake all night drinking your youth away, and sleep the whole weekend. Unfortunately, that is not what I mean. It more about understanding that you have the energy, brains and time now, than you will have in the next 10 years.
It is best to stay awake now, working towards building your future, so when you get old you get to sleep in peace. Work hard while you are still your own dependent or have few dependents, as a time will come where they will be others crying. If you do not prepare now, you will never sleep when you get old. But if you prepare now, they will not bother you when they arrive. Many of us just want joy and fun, and we want it now. We think we will stay young forever. But we don't stay young forever; neither do we live forever.
Being a youth means you have time to make the foundation that your future self will be cemented on. Sometimes it will feel like it's not worth it, as you work so hard and see little results. But very often, this teaches us lesson and gives us experiences which will come in handy in the future. Use the time you have now to learn as much as you can. Instead of going out each weekend, have time indoors wherein you read and watch videos and new, relating to your career or business.
The truth is, if you work hard now, you will have enough reason and time to celebrate in the future. But if you try to celebrate the minuscule achievement now, you will have nothing to celebrate in the future. You may as well be celebrating your future downfall and lack. Prioritise what is important and put in effort and time.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Wednesday, 10 April 2019
REMEMBER WHO HELD YOU
Our journeys in life differ, and so do the challenges. For some of us, we've had to really struggle hard to get to the next point in life, and even when we reach it, the struggle just gets worse. We often have to get by with the assistance of those around us. And when one day when things get better, we must remember these people. But who are these people?
I will touch on 3 types of people we are most likely to encounter in the struggles of life. Let's start with the one that you don't have to remember. These are the people who saw you starving, had excess and even threw some away, but never invited you in to eat no matter how hard you struggled. They saw how hard you worked and often did tell you how strong you were, but not even once did they offer anything to help ease your hunger. They knew they could assist you in getting your life better but just didn't care. They either didn't care or outright didn't want you to make it at all. When you wine and dine like a king, it's okay if you do not remember these people.
The next group is those who invited you in to eat. However, it will be divided into those you should remember, and those whom you may not. It seems not to make sense to say you may not remember someone who helped you, but it will soon. In this life, there are people who will genuinely help you out of their hearts. And there are people who just want to exercise control over you in the form of helping. The people who are quick to remind to "never bite the hand that feeds you". These people are worse than the people who didn't even offer assistance at all.
These are the people who will invite you in when you hungry, but will give you the food in a dog's bowl, and tell you to appreciate what you have been given. They enjoy seeing you in the state of suffering because it gives them some control over you. It may seem like they are truly helpful while in fact they just want you to be stuck so you keep coming back to them. These are the people who want you to make it but to never exceed the limits they set for you; which are normally set very low. They will start having a problem when you can afford to feed yourself in this life. They turn from the angels they were pretending to be, into demons that want to destroy you. I once had a friend who used to say they had my back. The signs were there that this friend didn't have my back because they constantly tried to drag me down if I ever seemed to exceed their limits. It all got to an extreme when my career started showing signs of growth, and their colors came out in full force. I was told every possible hurting word a person can say. Why? All because I offered a Christmas gift. The problem wasn't me or the gift, but the problem was that I could now stand on my own. The person needed me to always rely on them, and when I did they tried to destroy me with words. If you invite these people in, the least you can expect is for them to poison your feast.
And finally there are those whom you ought to bring to you table when you start feasting like a king. These are the people who shared with you when they too had little. When they had much, they shared with you in a way that gave you dignity. They kept encouraging you and telling you that one day you will feast like a king. They fed you with motivation, financial assistance and emotional support. All they wanted was for you to make it in life. You will see these people by celebrating with you when things get better. They will be with you when it rains, and when the sun comes out. And when things get better, they celebrate positively tell you to aim for the moon. These are people who believe in you. People who starved with you. People who were honest with you. Never lied to you or tried to use you for their own agendas. People who didn't have hidden motives. When you make it in life, always remember these people and never leave them outside to starve. They sacrificed themselves for you out of love. The least you can do is love them back.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
I will touch on 3 types of people we are most likely to encounter in the struggles of life. Let's start with the one that you don't have to remember. These are the people who saw you starving, had excess and even threw some away, but never invited you in to eat no matter how hard you struggled. They saw how hard you worked and often did tell you how strong you were, but not even once did they offer anything to help ease your hunger. They knew they could assist you in getting your life better but just didn't care. They either didn't care or outright didn't want you to make it at all. When you wine and dine like a king, it's okay if you do not remember these people.
The next group is those who invited you in to eat. However, it will be divided into those you should remember, and those whom you may not. It seems not to make sense to say you may not remember someone who helped you, but it will soon. In this life, there are people who will genuinely help you out of their hearts. And there are people who just want to exercise control over you in the form of helping. The people who are quick to remind to "never bite the hand that feeds you". These people are worse than the people who didn't even offer assistance at all.
These are the people who will invite you in when you hungry, but will give you the food in a dog's bowl, and tell you to appreciate what you have been given. They enjoy seeing you in the state of suffering because it gives them some control over you. It may seem like they are truly helpful while in fact they just want you to be stuck so you keep coming back to them. These are the people who want you to make it but to never exceed the limits they set for you; which are normally set very low. They will start having a problem when you can afford to feed yourself in this life. They turn from the angels they were pretending to be, into demons that want to destroy you. I once had a friend who used to say they had my back. The signs were there that this friend didn't have my back because they constantly tried to drag me down if I ever seemed to exceed their limits. It all got to an extreme when my career started showing signs of growth, and their colors came out in full force. I was told every possible hurting word a person can say. Why? All because I offered a Christmas gift. The problem wasn't me or the gift, but the problem was that I could now stand on my own. The person needed me to always rely on them, and when I did they tried to destroy me with words. If you invite these people in, the least you can expect is for them to poison your feast.
And finally there are those whom you ought to bring to you table when you start feasting like a king. These are the people who shared with you when they too had little. When they had much, they shared with you in a way that gave you dignity. They kept encouraging you and telling you that one day you will feast like a king. They fed you with motivation, financial assistance and emotional support. All they wanted was for you to make it in life. You will see these people by celebrating with you when things get better. They will be with you when it rains, and when the sun comes out. And when things get better, they celebrate positively tell you to aim for the moon. These are people who believe in you. People who starved with you. People who were honest with you. Never lied to you or tried to use you for their own agendas. People who didn't have hidden motives. When you make it in life, always remember these people and never leave them outside to starve. They sacrificed themselves for you out of love. The least you can do is love them back.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
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