Our journeys in life differ, and so do the challenges. For some of us, we've had to really struggle hard to get to the next point in life, and even when we reach it, the struggle just gets worse. We often have to get by with the assistance of those around us. And when one day when things get better, we must remember these people. But who are these people?
I will touch on 3 types of people we are most likely to encounter in the struggles of life. Let's start with the one that you don't have to remember. These are the people who saw you starving, had excess and even threw some away, but never invited you in to eat no matter how hard you struggled. They saw how hard you worked and often did tell you how strong you were, but not even once did they offer anything to help ease your hunger. They knew they could assist you in getting your life better but just didn't care. They either didn't care or outright didn't want you to make it at all. When you wine and dine like a king, it's okay if you do not remember these people.
The next group is those who invited you in to eat. However, it will be divided into those you should remember, and those whom you may not. It seems not to make sense to say you may not remember someone who helped you, but it will soon. In this life, there are people who will genuinely help you out of their hearts. And there are people who just want to exercise control over you in the form of helping. The people who are quick to remind to "never bite the hand that feeds you". These people are worse than the people who didn't even offer assistance at all.
These are the people who will invite you in when you hungry, but will give you the food in a dog's bowl, and tell you to appreciate what you have been given. They enjoy seeing you in the state of suffering because it gives them some control over you. It may seem like they are truly helpful while in fact they just want you to be stuck so you keep coming back to them. These are the people who want you to make it but to never exceed the limits they set for you; which are normally set very low. They will start having a problem when you can afford to feed yourself in this life. They turn from the angels they were pretending to be, into demons that want to destroy you. I once had a friend who used to say they had my back. The signs were there that this friend didn't have my back because they constantly tried to drag me down if I ever seemed to exceed their limits. It all got to an extreme when my career started showing signs of growth, and their colors came out in full force. I was told every possible hurting word a person can say. Why? All because I offered a Christmas gift. The problem wasn't me or the gift, but the problem was that I could now stand on my own. The person needed me to always rely on them, and when I did they tried to destroy me with words. If you invite these people in, the least you can expect is for them to poison your feast.
And finally there are those whom you ought to bring to you table when you start feasting like a king. These are the people who shared with you when they too had little. When they had much, they shared with you in a way that gave you dignity. They kept encouraging you and telling you that one day you will feast like a king. They fed you with motivation, financial assistance and emotional support. All they wanted was for you to make it in life. You will see these people by celebrating with you when things get better. They will be with you when it rains, and when the sun comes out. And when things get better, they celebrate positively tell you to aim for the moon. These are people who believe in you. People who starved with you. People who were honest with you. Never lied to you or tried to use you for their own agendas. People who didn't have hidden motives. When you make it in life, always remember these people and never leave them outside to starve. They sacrificed themselves for you out of love. The least you can do is love them back.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
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