HOW EASY WE FORGET

Many of us live in the fast lane. Everything happens at a very fast pace. The job we do on a daily basis, hangouts etc, are all very intense and fast paced. But we just keep moving forward or going deeper. Very little do we sit down and just look at the light.

We are so deeply focused on everything that is going on in front of us that we are more likely to see what we lack, than what we have. We want to push hard and get that thing, secure that bag and make that big move. That is absolutely needed. We all have to work hard. We all have to achieve big. But the problem starts when we think that is the only thing that will make us happy. We place our whole definition of happiness on what we can achieve. It is something that has gotten hold of many of us, myself included.

But recently I was made to realise that even when I push myself and work hard towards something, I must always take a moment to appreciate the little things around me. The things that may not say to me "We need to be appreciated", but if I lost them, I wouldn't be the same nor happy even with all the money and assets the world can give. How easy we forget. How easy we forget about those around us, spend little time checking on their health, making a call to them, telling them we love them, cooking for them, giving them a hug etc. How easy we forget. We think we do not need these things, but these things are our foundation.

Nurture these people and the little things that come along with it. Appreciate life from the smallest thing, and when big things come, they will not change who you are. Our world is so caught up in the problems because we have all forgotten to appreciate what we already have. We too caught up in likes, follows, retweets and what we do not have and pay little attention to what we have. We do not see the blessings we already have.

How easy we forget.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

REMEMBER TO REMEMBER

We all have our dreams and goals. I believe most of us are doing something to get to where we want to get. Sometimes it gets really hard, and sometimes it gets really easy. As long as you keep moving forward.

Remember to remember though, that it is your dream, and not other people's dream. When working towards your dream, there will be people around you with all sorts of comments and ideas. Only take in the good ones that will take you to the destination. Remember that the dream is yours and nobody understands it better than you. You are the one who sees the end, and knows how far you are from it. If other people reach their goals early, good for them, their race is finished; yours must carry on. Focus less on competing because the person you might want to compete with does not have the same dreams as you. You dream might be to create jobs for thousands of people while the other person's dream is to be one of those thousands of people. Remember the dream is yours, and shouldn't be measured by others.

Also remember to remember that not everyone will cheer for you. Just as soccer teams have fans and those who hate them, the same is true for dreamers and go-getters. Not everyone will be your biggest fan. Some people will try to bring you down with words and actions. The people that do not understand what you are chasing, and those that are envious will try to hold you back. It is a game of emotional intelligence. Hold yourself together, put in all your effort and trust God. Challenges will come, but remember the goals and dreams you have. Go out and make them a reality. Go out and prove it to yourself and others that it is possible. If you give up because of what someone said or did, you are the one who will have failed, and not the other person.

Remember, it is all on you.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

USE YOUR TIME WISELY

Being a youth is a blessing. A blessing many seem to misunderstand. You ought to enjoy your youthful. However, many mistake enjoying their youth for destroying their future. It is common sight these days. Youth throwing their youthfulness away in the name of "Enjoying being young".

So how are we supposed to enjoy our youth? A simple line I always says to myself sums it all up. "Stay awake now, and sleep later". I know some of you may get jumpy thinking I mean stay awake all night drinking your youth away, and sleep the whole weekend. Unfortunately, that is not what I mean. It more about understanding that you have the energy, brains and time now, than you will have in the next 10 years.

It is best to stay awake now, working towards building your future, so when you get old you get to sleep in peace. Work hard while you are still your own dependent or have few dependents, as a time will come where they will be others crying. If you do not prepare now, you will never sleep when you get old. But if you prepare now, they will not bother you when they arrive. Many of us just want joy and fun, and we want it now. We think we will stay young forever. But we don't stay young forever; neither do we live forever.

Being a youth means you have time to make the foundation that your future self will be cemented on. Sometimes it will feel like it's not worth it, as you work so hard and see little results. But very often, this teaches us lesson and gives us experiences which will come in handy in the future. Use the time you have now to learn as much as you can. Instead of going out each weekend, have time indoors wherein you read and watch videos and new, relating to your career or business.

The truth is, if you work hard now, you will have enough reason and time to celebrate in the future. But if you try to celebrate the minuscule achievement now, you will have nothing to celebrate in the future. You may as well be celebrating your future downfall and lack. Prioritise what is important and put in effort and time.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

ADAPT AND STRIVE

The world is forever changing, with billions of data and new technology being introduced daily. Our world is expanding at a rate which we as human are lagging when it comes to getting a grasp of all the changes. And the speed at which it is happening increases exponentially. Many fear these new changes and developments, and some love them.

It is a matter of which side of the fence you are on. These technologies can make your life easier or a living hell. The reality of today is that we have to adapt and embrace these changes, in order to fit them into our daily lives. Resistance is what will make it difficult for us. I am not referring to operating a smart phone or personal computer, but rather adventuring into different productivity softwares, and understanding at least one of the language these machines and technologies communicate in.

I know it looks like I am crazy with actually advising to learn the languages, but the world of tomorrow will favor those who understand at least the basics of these languages. And the languages have recently gotten much better for anyone to just take them up and do wonders with them. Learning these technologies, both hardware and software, give you a much better understanding of them, which will allow you to modify, streamline and even create newer processes which help you complete your duties much faster.

The world is running faster than those who are driving the changes, and it calls for all to adapt quickly. Lagging will be repaid by redundancy. The world of tomorrow will be for those who befriend these technologies and harness their powers to make their lives better. Those are the people who will incorporate these technologies in their daily lives and make these technologies work for them. The startups of today are born global due to these technologies. Technology rewards those who embrace it and it isn't so kind to those who don't.

Do not fear these changes. ADAPT AND STRIVE.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

SAIL ON

I have recently been going through my old writings which I found in my google drive. It has been a long journey. Travelled to the dark abyss and back to the light again. What a journey it has been. Today's blog is inspired by the reflections that followed after reading everything.

In life, we are like sailors at sea. No one knows what the sea holds for them each day, but we all pray and hope it has the best for us. Some do not even know where they are sailing to. And for those who do, some do not know the way to get to where they want to get to. To those drifting with the oceans, and those who are trying to sail to a destination, remember to enjoy the scenery. The journey itself is just as important as the destination. There is always going to be an element of surprise when you in this sea of life. Some will surprise you, and some will really surprise you.

Then there will be days when there are storms. We only have different boats and thus the behaviour during a storm will be different. But each of us is given a boat according to our strengths. The smaller the boat, the more strength you have, and will gain. Imagine a small wooden fishing boat out at sea in a raging storm. It would definitely take a lot of skills to survive that. And the truth is, we all have it in us to sail that tiny boat to our destination. It might be an island, or another continent, but we have the skills. You have the skill. I have the skills. The oceans will rock you back and fourth, and at times you will see your life flash before your eyes. Do not give in to the ocean. There is always a storm before a calm(haha, I know I switched that).

There might be other sailors around, but none will abandon their ship to come save you, leaving theirs to sink. They may try their best to help in other ways, but do not expect them to drop everything for you. That is how life is. No one will drop everything for you, because each one of us is going to the same storm in the same sea. And you have the strength to make it with the little or no assistance that you have. In the end it will build your character and make you a strong person. Rough seas make the best sailors.You just need to face the fear and tell yourself, I can do this.

This is for all of you out there who might be feeling discouraged, defeated or helpless. You are not helpless. You have yourself and your boat. Keep sailing on. If you stop you will not get to where you are supposed to go. Do not give in. The scary moments will be your battle scars one day. You will look back at where you have been, and be thankful you never gave up. It doesn't matter how hard it gets, or how much it feels like death is upon you.KEEP SAILING ON.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba

MINDSET SHIFT

I was having a conversation with a friend one day when a flashy car passed us. He turned around and looked at until he couldn't see it anymore. After that I heard all his fantasies about which car he wishes to have and how it would change his life. From what I was getting, having such a car would increase his value and sense of happiness. While it is okay to dream of having nice things, there is a danger that lies in it.

As I went on talking to this friend of mine, I realised that he had mentioned over 15 cars which were his favourite. It is very common with many of us to get lost in fantasies and wishing for nicer things in life. Often times we put so much value in the objects that there's is more of a desire for something and little concern on 'how can I get it'. If you ask anyone on the streets, they'd tell you they want many things. But if you turn around and ask what they are doing to get those things very few would answer you.

Many people say 'I want that man's car' while they should be saying ' I want to work hard be like that man'. This way you get to learn more about what to do to attain such things instead of just desiring it and doing nothing. Fantasies will only waste your time if you do not get up and work. We need to understand that who ever has an object we desire had to do something to gain such. Our job is to ask if we can do the same too and if not, what's the closest thing we can do.

And after changing my mindset to this, I've come to realise that the more you work hard you start to realise that the value is not in the object but in the owner. Without the owner, there wouldn't be that object. The real value that will grant you all the happiness is finding a purpose rather than desiring object. And as you work hard, you desires get subdued because you start to see it as vanity. You can have all the things in the world, but that will not increase your value as a person or in society. But you can work hard and be valued as an individual, and then everything else will into your hands.

Change your mindset. Create your value. Create your brand.

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba