IT IS OKAY TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST

Throughout life, we meet people. Sometimes we meet people and fall deeply in love. We let go of ourselves. We neglect ourselves to make sure the other person is taken care of. We go all out to make the person happy. But we forget one thing; we cannot control the other person. And this is where all the problems starts.

We often neglect even our dreams or to dedicate time to build ourselves because we do not want to rob the other person of our time. But sometimes the other person doesn't even care. We may do all we do, but at the end of the day, we should never have expectations.

In fact it would be very wise to put ourselves first. In this current generation, putting someone first is one of the biggest mistake a person can make. It doesn't matter how much you love a person, but putting them first is a big mistake. When you put someone first, they start feeling entitled to all that you give, and eventually start taking you for granted. It is very unhealthy.

Take time to work on yourself. Put yourself first and make sure you work hard towards your dreams. The fastest way to destroy yourself is to put someone else first. Because no one will put you first.
It doesn't matter if it is a friend, or a partner. Put yourself first. Save yourself all the pain.

WITH LOVE...

WHAT COULD HAPPEN NEXT?

Everything in this life is about choices. We are always going to make choices. The choice to wake up. The choice not to. Life always gives you many choices. It also gives you the choice to sit down and say I have no choice. Each and everyone of the choices we make will influence the set of choices life offers to us next time. It will also have consequences. And that is the thing that is troubling.

It is very important to not rush to taking a decision each time. Even with the small choices, because there's always going to be an after effect. Sometimes we the effects come when we've forgotten about the choices we made. Always stop, even if it's for a second, and ask yourself "what could happen next if you made a certain choice".

If someone shouts at you, what could happen next if you shouted back? If someone cheated on you, what could happen if your cheated back? If someone lied to you what could happen next if you stopped trusting whatever they say? Every choice is always going to have an outcome. Very often, when in the moment, we never stop to think of the outcomes. We let the moment tell us what choices to make, sometimes leading to regret.

Every choice you make right now will affect your path of life, either instantly or some time in the future. Always pause, and ask yourself, "What could happen next?".

WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba