If life was like standing before a mirror, the past would be looking into your reflection's eyes and seeing the inner most pain, regret and mistakes. It would be the one thing few of us do. In fact, it is the one thing that few of us actually do. How many of us look deep into those eyes when standing in front of a mirror? How many of us want to think of the past?
I know many say it's best to leave the past behind, but sometimes the past will haunt you till you look at it in the eyes. Nobody wants to admit their mistakes, so we tend to avoid that inner conversation with the past. The world of today is moving away from facing things to more of "closing my eyes and hoping when I open them everything will be fine". And the sad part is, we close our eyes without praying. We run far away from anything and/or anyone that aims to correct us. We are too proud and individualistic.
But it is in the past where we learn what not to do today and tomorrow. It is in the past that we somehow get that enlightenment. You don't have to dwell in the past, but rather reflect on your progress from the past as well as checking if you are a better person or not. Are you still as naive, self centered as before? Are people still walking out of your life as before, and why? Reflecting is a way to find our mistakes and imperfection, then polishing them out. It is the only way you can plan your journey to happiness. Understanding your past and reflecting on it, will help you avoid going back to it a.k.a repeating it.
And no matter how hard you avoid reflecting, life will eventually force you to do it. On that one cold night alone. It will break you... In order to make you.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Friday, 10 May 2019
Monday, 6 May 2019
NATURAL SELECTION
The weight of life can sometimes feel like it is too much. Sometimes it looks like things are falling apart. But it is all a matter of perspective. It is all a matter of where you look at it from. The glass is half empty, yet it is half full. It is about which side of the reality you want to be on.
Sometimes you think life is falling apart, while life is actually doing away with what you do not need and preparing you for what you need. Just because you want something doesn't necessarily mean you need it. Very often we get attached to the things we do not need but rather want. And sometimes our wants are shaped by our society and friends. We chase after all these things that we think will make us feel good, while in fact they will just add to our sorrows. It is an ever going emotionally taxing cycle.
But what if you looked at it from a different perspective when you lose all these things and people you want but do not need? What if you looked at it more as natural selection? Would it not help you let go of all these things and trust that it is the natural way that things are meant to be? Would it not help you heal and be less bitter and vengeful? Sometimes holding on to something will prevent something new from coming. Just as when a glass is full, you cannot pour anything into it. You first have to pour out what's in it, before putting in something else. And that is the problem with us. We try to force everything into one cup to fulfill our egos, and end up wondering why we have a bitter cocktail of life. You can't go mixing what's not supposed to be mixed and expect good results.
Let go. Pour out what's in your cup. Make space for what's to come. If life wants to pour it out for you, cry not. Let life pour it out, and make space for what's good for you. May you find strength and courage to accept it when life says somethings is not good for you, and to be able to let go.
WITH LOVE...
M.
Sometimes you think life is falling apart, while life is actually doing away with what you do not need and preparing you for what you need. Just because you want something doesn't necessarily mean you need it. Very often we get attached to the things we do not need but rather want. And sometimes our wants are shaped by our society and friends. We chase after all these things that we think will make us feel good, while in fact they will just add to our sorrows. It is an ever going emotionally taxing cycle.
But what if you looked at it from a different perspective when you lose all these things and people you want but do not need? What if you looked at it more as natural selection? Would it not help you let go of all these things and trust that it is the natural way that things are meant to be? Would it not help you heal and be less bitter and vengeful? Sometimes holding on to something will prevent something new from coming. Just as when a glass is full, you cannot pour anything into it. You first have to pour out what's in it, before putting in something else. And that is the problem with us. We try to force everything into one cup to fulfill our egos, and end up wondering why we have a bitter cocktail of life. You can't go mixing what's not supposed to be mixed and expect good results.
Let go. Pour out what's in your cup. Make space for what's to come. If life wants to pour it out for you, cry not. Let life pour it out, and make space for what's good for you. May you find strength and courage to accept it when life says somethings is not good for you, and to be able to let go.
WITH LOVE...
M.
Friday, 3 May 2019
REMEMBER TO REMEMBER
We all have our dreams and goals. I believe most of us are doing something to get to where we want to get. Sometimes it gets really hard, and sometimes it gets really easy. As long as you keep moving forward.
Remember to remember though, that it is your dream, and not other people's dream. When working towards your dream, there will be people around you with all sorts of comments and ideas. Only take in the good ones that will take you to the destination. Remember that the dream is yours and nobody understands it better than you. You are the one who sees the end, and knows how far you are from it. If other people reach their goals early, good for them, their race is finished; yours must carry on. Focus less on competing because the person you might want to compete with does not have the same dreams as you. You dream might be to create jobs for thousands of people while the other person's dream is to be one of those thousands of people. Remember the dream is yours, and shouldn't be measured by others.
Also remember to remember that not everyone will cheer for you. Just as soccer teams have fans and those who hate them, the same is true for dreamers and go-getters. Not everyone will be your biggest fan. Some people will try to bring you down with words and actions. The people that do not understand what you are chasing, and those that are envious will try to hold you back. It is a game of emotional intelligence. Hold yourself together, put in all your effort and trust God. Challenges will come, but remember the goals and dreams you have. Go out and make them a reality. Go out and prove it to yourself and others that it is possible. If you give up because of what someone said or did, you are the one who will have failed, and not the other person.
Remember, it is all on you.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Remember to remember though, that it is your dream, and not other people's dream. When working towards your dream, there will be people around you with all sorts of comments and ideas. Only take in the good ones that will take you to the destination. Remember that the dream is yours and nobody understands it better than you. You are the one who sees the end, and knows how far you are from it. If other people reach their goals early, good for them, their race is finished; yours must carry on. Focus less on competing because the person you might want to compete with does not have the same dreams as you. You dream might be to create jobs for thousands of people while the other person's dream is to be one of those thousands of people. Remember the dream is yours, and shouldn't be measured by others.
Also remember to remember that not everyone will cheer for you. Just as soccer teams have fans and those who hate them, the same is true for dreamers and go-getters. Not everyone will be your biggest fan. Some people will try to bring you down with words and actions. The people that do not understand what you are chasing, and those that are envious will try to hold you back. It is a game of emotional intelligence. Hold yourself together, put in all your effort and trust God. Challenges will come, but remember the goals and dreams you have. Go out and make them a reality. Go out and prove it to yourself and others that it is possible. If you give up because of what someone said or did, you are the one who will have failed, and not the other person.
Remember, it is all on you.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Wednesday, 1 May 2019
USE YOUR TIME WISELY
Being a youth is a blessing. A blessing many seem to misunderstand. You ought to enjoy your youthful. However, many mistake enjoying their youth for destroying their future. It is common sight these days. Youth throwing their youthfulness away in the name of "Enjoying being young".
So how are we supposed to enjoy our youth? A simple line I always says to myself sums it all up. "Stay awake now, and sleep later". I know some of you may get jumpy thinking I mean stay awake all night drinking your youth away, and sleep the whole weekend. Unfortunately, that is not what I mean. It more about understanding that you have the energy, brains and time now, than you will have in the next 10 years.
It is best to stay awake now, working towards building your future, so when you get old you get to sleep in peace. Work hard while you are still your own dependent or have few dependents, as a time will come where they will be others crying. If you do not prepare now, you will never sleep when you get old. But if you prepare now, they will not bother you when they arrive. Many of us just want joy and fun, and we want it now. We think we will stay young forever. But we don't stay young forever; neither do we live forever.
Being a youth means you have time to make the foundation that your future self will be cemented on. Sometimes it will feel like it's not worth it, as you work so hard and see little results. But very often, this teaches us lesson and gives us experiences which will come in handy in the future. Use the time you have now to learn as much as you can. Instead of going out each weekend, have time indoors wherein you read and watch videos and new, relating to your career or business.
The truth is, if you work hard now, you will have enough reason and time to celebrate in the future. But if you try to celebrate the minuscule achievement now, you will have nothing to celebrate in the future. You may as well be celebrating your future downfall and lack. Prioritise what is important and put in effort and time.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
So how are we supposed to enjoy our youth? A simple line I always says to myself sums it all up. "Stay awake now, and sleep later". I know some of you may get jumpy thinking I mean stay awake all night drinking your youth away, and sleep the whole weekend. Unfortunately, that is not what I mean. It more about understanding that you have the energy, brains and time now, than you will have in the next 10 years.
It is best to stay awake now, working towards building your future, so when you get old you get to sleep in peace. Work hard while you are still your own dependent or have few dependents, as a time will come where they will be others crying. If you do not prepare now, you will never sleep when you get old. But if you prepare now, they will not bother you when they arrive. Many of us just want joy and fun, and we want it now. We think we will stay young forever. But we don't stay young forever; neither do we live forever.
Being a youth means you have time to make the foundation that your future self will be cemented on. Sometimes it will feel like it's not worth it, as you work so hard and see little results. But very often, this teaches us lesson and gives us experiences which will come in handy in the future. Use the time you have now to learn as much as you can. Instead of going out each weekend, have time indoors wherein you read and watch videos and new, relating to your career or business.
The truth is, if you work hard now, you will have enough reason and time to celebrate in the future. But if you try to celebrate the minuscule achievement now, you will have nothing to celebrate in the future. You may as well be celebrating your future downfall and lack. Prioritise what is important and put in effort and time.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Monday, 29 April 2019
A CARING CIRCLE
I wasn't planning to write about this today, but a lot has happened which has led to me writing this. I am writing it out of a concerned and caring heart for each and everyone of you out there.
Times are not getting easier for anyone, especially with the current global economic downswing. Many people have gotten used to the life they had before and sometimes it's just too hard to downgrade. Many who have put up a front of living the good life cannot/do not want to live anything less. And this has created a very big problem which many are not aware of. Abuse and psychological issues.
We often see those around us, including friends, showing off the good life on. Be it in person or on social media, these people always seem to be happy. And we as they close friends or loved ones, encourage such behavior. Our comments, and behavior around these people, though not meant to harm, actually do harm. We are often not too real with these people. And sometimes they do not feel free around us. What we need is an open environment with loved ones. A real environment of truth and openness wherein we are all free to express how we feel.
With regards to women, this good life chase, can at times be a mask to hide the abuse. And if we as such a person's friends do not make her feel free enough to open up without fear of shaming, then we are failing as friends. Both male and female friends of such a person should make the person feel free enough to talk about anything. We need to be real friends to those around us, and not just the 'rich' one but all of our friends. There have recently been many cases of women who were being abused but hiding behind the good life. There are many more out there, and it takes you and me by being friends to actually get these people to open up. And when they do, we ought to make them feel protected, with no shaming or judgments.
Another issue is with regards to emotional and psychological states. This is something that can affect anyone, and society doesn't want to openly talk about it. Many people who took their lives could've been saved had they had good friends who listen. Often times we can tell when someone is not alright. But instead of making the person feel free to open up and reassuring them our love and protection, we carry on as if everything is normal. And when we lose the person, we then want to claim we loved them. Sometimes it takes just a hug and reminding your friends how much you love them, in order for them to open up.
I urge you all to go out and be positive and observant. Go and be great support system. Be real with those around you. Remind them that it's okay to cry and ask for help. Show them your support and protection. You will save someone's life by doing so. Create an open environment which encourages speaking out. Do not be that person who shows love as the coffin goes down. Show the love while the person is still around. Let's us go and change the world and make it an environment where we all grow together and take care of one another.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Times are not getting easier for anyone, especially with the current global economic downswing. Many people have gotten used to the life they had before and sometimes it's just too hard to downgrade. Many who have put up a front of living the good life cannot/do not want to live anything less. And this has created a very big problem which many are not aware of. Abuse and psychological issues.
We often see those around us, including friends, showing off the good life on. Be it in person or on social media, these people always seem to be happy. And we as they close friends or loved ones, encourage such behavior. Our comments, and behavior around these people, though not meant to harm, actually do harm. We are often not too real with these people. And sometimes they do not feel free around us. What we need is an open environment with loved ones. A real environment of truth and openness wherein we are all free to express how we feel.
With regards to women, this good life chase, can at times be a mask to hide the abuse. And if we as such a person's friends do not make her feel free enough to open up without fear of shaming, then we are failing as friends. Both male and female friends of such a person should make the person feel free enough to talk about anything. We need to be real friends to those around us, and not just the 'rich' one but all of our friends. There have recently been many cases of women who were being abused but hiding behind the good life. There are many more out there, and it takes you and me by being friends to actually get these people to open up. And when they do, we ought to make them feel protected, with no shaming or judgments.
Another issue is with regards to emotional and psychological states. This is something that can affect anyone, and society doesn't want to openly talk about it. Many people who took their lives could've been saved had they had good friends who listen. Often times we can tell when someone is not alright. But instead of making the person feel free to open up and reassuring them our love and protection, we carry on as if everything is normal. And when we lose the person, we then want to claim we loved them. Sometimes it takes just a hug and reminding your friends how much you love them, in order for them to open up.
I urge you all to go out and be positive and observant. Go and be great support system. Be real with those around you. Remind them that it's okay to cry and ask for help. Show them your support and protection. You will save someone's life by doing so. Create an open environment which encourages speaking out. Do not be that person who shows love as the coffin goes down. Show the love while the person is still around. Let's us go and change the world and make it an environment where we all grow together and take care of one another.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Friday, 26 April 2019
INFIEARTH
We've been having InfiEarth for a long time now, and some of you may not really understand the true meaning of it. Why infinite earth? Why that name of all names? Is there more to it or is it just a name?
InfiEarth is not just a name. It an attitude and a way of life. It is a reaction to the world we live in. Our world has many problems facing it, some of which threaten it's existence. Because we are not advancing fast enough, our world is taking punishment for it. The lack of growth and care is tearing the fabric of society. We are faced with pollution, global warming, natural disasters, hunger, poverty and pandemics. Not a week goes by without a headline concerning these matters.
We are all trying to get solutions but we fail to understand that our attitude is very important in solving this. We first need to believe that it is possible before we try to do it. We need a positive attitude and to foresee it happen. Once we believe in an infinite world where there is infinite possibilities and resources for all who live in it, then we can go onto the next step of being a solution. If each one of us were to dedicate ourselves, with belief, to bring solutions, then we will see our world become a better place.
Go out there and work towards an infinite world.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
InfiEarth is not just a name. It an attitude and a way of life. It is a reaction to the world we live in. Our world has many problems facing it, some of which threaten it's existence. Because we are not advancing fast enough, our world is taking punishment for it. The lack of growth and care is tearing the fabric of society. We are faced with pollution, global warming, natural disasters, hunger, poverty and pandemics. Not a week goes by without a headline concerning these matters.
We are all trying to get solutions but we fail to understand that our attitude is very important in solving this. We first need to believe that it is possible before we try to do it. We need a positive attitude and to foresee it happen. Once we believe in an infinite world where there is infinite possibilities and resources for all who live in it, then we can go onto the next step of being a solution. If each one of us were to dedicate ourselves, with belief, to bring solutions, then we will see our world become a better place.
Go out there and work towards an infinite world.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Wednesday, 24 April 2019
STOP AND THINK ABOUT THIS
First of all allow me to apologise for having not written anything the past Friday and Monday. We all know Easter was upon us. I too needed some time off away from everything and just have time alone to think about my life. And something dawned on me in the middle of those thoughts. It was more of a voice in my head. "You do realise that one day you might just show up dead in a ditch right?" the voice said. I've never laughed so hard in my laugh. I mean, what could possibly lead to that? I live a very 'dull' life for most right?
Well I was missing the point. The point wasn't how I would die (God help me that I don't end up in a ditch somewhere). The point is that we are all going to die. Now as much as many may think it's okay to lazy around because you are going to die some day, I actually want to focus on the opposite to that. Ask yourself one question. If I were to show up dead in ditch tomorrow, what would people remember me for? Would I be remembered as the ditch corpse? Or would I be remembered for something more positive?
How are you living your life? That was the main aim of the voice in my head. To remind me that I need to give life my best. Very often we get too comfortable and forget to keep chasing greatness. But we forget that tomorrow is not promised. I just want to challenge all of you to go out there with positivity, aiming to be the best you can be. Contribute positively into the world and help make it a better place. That way if you end dead in a ditch somewhere, we will remember you good works. You will be remembered as the person who did a lot for society. Be an answer in this life. Spread positive energy.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Well I was missing the point. The point wasn't how I would die (God help me that I don't end up in a ditch somewhere). The point is that we are all going to die. Now as much as many may think it's okay to lazy around because you are going to die some day, I actually want to focus on the opposite to that. Ask yourself one question. If I were to show up dead in ditch tomorrow, what would people remember me for? Would I be remembered as the ditch corpse? Or would I be remembered for something more positive?
How are you living your life? That was the main aim of the voice in my head. To remind me that I need to give life my best. Very often we get too comfortable and forget to keep chasing greatness. But we forget that tomorrow is not promised. I just want to challenge all of you to go out there with positivity, aiming to be the best you can be. Contribute positively into the world and help make it a better place. That way if you end dead in a ditch somewhere, we will remember you good works. You will be remembered as the person who did a lot for society. Be an answer in this life. Spread positive energy.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
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