Today's theme is still on waiting. Last time I did write that there was a lot to write about with regards to waiting. And I ended Wednesday's by telling you to be ready. Today I want to venture a bit more into readiness for what you are waiting for.
Life is not a fairy-tale and I believe most, if not all, of you know that. one doesn't just wish things to reality or throw a coin in a wishing well. Life will not always do what you want. And while you are waiting, it will often feel like life is completely against you. But life doesn't do what you wish for it to do. It usually reacts to what you do.
Complaining is the one thing that will make your waiting a bad experience. Unfortunately it is human nature to complain when things aren't happening our way. However, shift your attitude from on of feeling that life might have 'beef' against you, or someone else might and starting understanding +85% of the work is all you. Whether you blame someone or not, it won't change that fact. You have to own the moment and own your attitude.
Do not waste time feeling sorry and worrying about why it is taking so long. Take that time focusing on building yourself and growing as an individual. When the waiting gives you 99 reason why it is "unfair", "you are cursed", or any other reason why you should give up, give yourself 1 reason to hold on and wait patiently. Stick to the one reason. And when the wait is finally over, you will appreciate what you have been waiting for.
Remember, the world owes you nothing. You can cry and blame everyone for all you like, but at the end of the day you will have to face the music alone. At night when you are sleeping, you will wish you could turn back time and go back to that one moment and be patient. Your impatience today will come back to haunt you tomorrow, and it will have you waiting a whole lot longer than you would've waited now.
Learn to wait. The world owes you nothing.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Friday, 19 July 2019
Wednesday, 17 July 2019
YOU'VE GOT TO BURN
Today I will be carrying on with the theme on waiting. I feel there's a lot to say about the experience of waiting which I unfortunately cannot fit into one post. So please bare with me.
The one thing that is common in everyone who is waiting is need. We wait because we need something. I am not referring to waiting for a person, though you can wait for a person whom you need.I am referring to waiting for something to happen that you feel will better your life. There's always a burning desire/need that fuels the waiting. Either you are waiting for a job, a start-up funder etc, the reality is there is a need behind all the waiting.
How deep the desire is, will influence the emotions you go through while you wait. If you are in deep need, it will always feel like a lifetime. But one thing you have to understand is that, if you really need something and you value it that much, then you will have to burn for it. There's no other way besides burning. You have to burn and burn you shall.
The mistake many make is decide to try something else and forget about what they have been waiting for, because they can't take the heat of waiting. If it is really worth much for you, you will burn for it. You sit in that furnace and wait patiently. I too have been in situations wherein quitting felt like a better option. It seemed like things were falling apart. But sometimes things have to fall apart for you to appreciate what is to come. If you didn't have to wait and burn, you wouldn't value it.
It doesn't end in waiting though. You have to be a visionary while you wait. Envision the wait coming to an end. What will you need to better take advantage of whatever you are waiting for. In what circumstances must you be in? Just as a fighter trains hard for a big fighter, you too need to ready yourself for what you are waiting for. Otherwise you will squander it. Sometimes it won't arrive until you have prepared yourself enough. You need to need to be prepared for it.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
The one thing that is common in everyone who is waiting is need. We wait because we need something. I am not referring to waiting for a person, though you can wait for a person whom you need.I am referring to waiting for something to happen that you feel will better your life. There's always a burning desire/need that fuels the waiting. Either you are waiting for a job, a start-up funder etc, the reality is there is a need behind all the waiting.
How deep the desire is, will influence the emotions you go through while you wait. If you are in deep need, it will always feel like a lifetime. But one thing you have to understand is that, if you really need something and you value it that much, then you will have to burn for it. There's no other way besides burning. You have to burn and burn you shall.
The mistake many make is decide to try something else and forget about what they have been waiting for, because they can't take the heat of waiting. If it is really worth much for you, you will burn for it. You sit in that furnace and wait patiently. I too have been in situations wherein quitting felt like a better option. It seemed like things were falling apart. But sometimes things have to fall apart for you to appreciate what is to come. If you didn't have to wait and burn, you wouldn't value it.
It doesn't end in waiting though. You have to be a visionary while you wait. Envision the wait coming to an end. What will you need to better take advantage of whatever you are waiting for. In what circumstances must you be in? Just as a fighter trains hard for a big fighter, you too need to ready yourself for what you are waiting for. Otherwise you will squander it. Sometimes it won't arrive until you have prepared yourself enough. You need to need to be prepared for it.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Monday, 15 July 2019
THE ART OF WAITING
The past couple of months have been a big test for me. I have been tested and pushed to my limits. But most importantly, it was my patience that was being tested in order to make me a better person. And it made me realise one about myself which I have also noted in other people as well. People hate waiting.
When I took time off from writing, I had reached a point wherein I knew I wasn't going to be able to produce anything of value, and also to make all the readers wait. But let's focus on what waiting entails. I used to think waiting simply meant that if for example someone says I will come at 5, I had to sit there till they arrived. I was completely wrong.
Waiting is not about being able to 'wait' till something or someone arrives. The bigger part and lesson to waiting is the battle that starts brewing within. It more about what you do while you wait. Pay attention to what you do when you wait. Often times when we have to wait for prolonged periods, our faith is tested. It is the true test of waiting. Our reaction to the waiting gets worse with time. And often times we give up on the waiting because "we have waited for too long".
What I found was that once you get over all that inner fighting, impatience, grumbling and anger, you start to not be aware much of the fact that you are waiting and focus more on that you are on a journey and each journey has a destination. Once you shift your mindset, you start seeing things from a different and more beautiful angle.
Next time you have to wait for weeks, months or even years, remember that how you react can determine if whatever you are waiting for arrives to find you or arrives to find you gone.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
When I took time off from writing, I had reached a point wherein I knew I wasn't going to be able to produce anything of value, and also to make all the readers wait. But let's focus on what waiting entails. I used to think waiting simply meant that if for example someone says I will come at 5, I had to sit there till they arrived. I was completely wrong.
Waiting is not about being able to 'wait' till something or someone arrives. The bigger part and lesson to waiting is the battle that starts brewing within. It more about what you do while you wait. Pay attention to what you do when you wait. Often times when we have to wait for prolonged periods, our faith is tested. It is the true test of waiting. Our reaction to the waiting gets worse with time. And often times we give up on the waiting because "we have waited for too long".
What I found was that once you get over all that inner fighting, impatience, grumbling and anger, you start to not be aware much of the fact that you are waiting and focus more on that you are on a journey and each journey has a destination. Once you shift your mindset, you start seeing things from a different and more beautiful angle.
Next time you have to wait for weeks, months or even years, remember that how you react can determine if whatever you are waiting for arrives to find you or arrives to find you gone.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Monday, 3 June 2019
TAKING A BREAK
Allow me to apologise for having not posted anything the past week. Unfortunately, a lot has been happening lately. A lot of personal stuff, as well as work has kept me very busy. Emotionally and mentally, a lot has been happening too.
We are often so busy with things in life that we forget to rest. I need to look after myself if I am to carry on writing more articles on InfiEarth and InfiCoding. This is why I have decided to take a break for this month and recoup. I really need a break to sit down, reflect and make plans. We all need that Pause every now and then when it calls for it.
My apologies to all readers.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
We are often so busy with things in life that we forget to rest. I need to look after myself if I am to carry on writing more articles on InfiEarth and InfiCoding. This is why I have decided to take a break for this month and recoup. I really need a break to sit down, reflect and make plans. We all need that Pause every now and then when it calls for it.
My apologies to all readers.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Monday, 27 May 2019
Lost In The World
Will it ever end?
Will things ever change?
This I ask myself each day
Seeing the rot that has invaded our world
The violence and wars of words
People gunning for each other's heads
And yet we say we the ultimate species.
How mankind has fallen
Hypocrisy has become our daily bread
I point you and you don't point me
I blame you but you don't blame me
But if you have money I defend you
And if it fails I destroy you
Unless you pay me to stand back
People have become worshipers of money
Spit on me and do as you please if the price is right
We have put a price tag upon our souls
For money we neglect our own homes
We forsake those that love us for those that pay us
Placing to much value on money
But what if one day all this money vanished?
What if one day all the social media went offline?
What if one day all you had left was you?
What would you be?
Would you be happy?
Or would you be someone that once lived?
Are you anything without all these things you worship?
Will things ever change?
This I ask myself each day
Seeing the rot that has invaded our world
The violence and wars of words
People gunning for each other's heads
And yet we say we the ultimate species.
How mankind has fallen
Hypocrisy has become our daily bread
I point you and you don't point me
I blame you but you don't blame me
But if you have money I defend you
And if it fails I destroy you
Unless you pay me to stand back
People have become worshipers of money
Spit on me and do as you please if the price is right
We have put a price tag upon our souls
For money we neglect our own homes
We forsake those that love us for those that pay us
Placing to much value on money
But what if one day all this money vanished?
What if one day all the social media went offline?
What if one day all you had left was you?
What would you be?
Would you be happy?
Or would you be someone that once lived?
Are you anything without all these things you worship?
Wednesday, 22 May 2019
SEARCH UNTIL YOU FIND YOU
When I first started this blogsite, I never thought I would be writing this much or getting as many views as I get. But our world is infinite and there's so much to write about. The one thing that has kept me coming back with new articles each time, is the joy of discovering myself.
Everything I write here, is either something I've been through, going through or part of me discovering myself. Sometimes I write something here which then reveals so much to me about myself. Sometimes I go back and read old posts which also help me through certain situations. But when I started, I never knew it would be this big. I never thought I could use my blog as a reference during tough times, as well as recommend it to others as well. But all you see in here is a young man discovering himself and his place in an infinite world, that's been broken.
Finding yourself is something I recommend to everyone. You won't find your complete self because everyday you will discover something new. As long as you keep searching from within, you will go from strength to strength. Just as I started this with one post, then stopped posting, to current state of being able to constantly write and post; such growth is possible for anyone. All you have to do is observe yourself, acknowledge you are incomplete, and then go on a journey to be the best you can be. Go on a journey to discover yourself. Along that journey you will discover bits and pieces which will combine to make you a much better person.
Don't get too comfortable. There is so much more you can achieve.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Everything I write here, is either something I've been through, going through or part of me discovering myself. Sometimes I write something here which then reveals so much to me about myself. Sometimes I go back and read old posts which also help me through certain situations. But when I started, I never knew it would be this big. I never thought I could use my blog as a reference during tough times, as well as recommend it to others as well. But all you see in here is a young man discovering himself and his place in an infinite world, that's been broken.
Finding yourself is something I recommend to everyone. You won't find your complete self because everyday you will discover something new. As long as you keep searching from within, you will go from strength to strength. Just as I started this with one post, then stopped posting, to current state of being able to constantly write and post; such growth is possible for anyone. All you have to do is observe yourself, acknowledge you are incomplete, and then go on a journey to be the best you can be. Go on a journey to discover yourself. Along that journey you will discover bits and pieces which will combine to make you a much better person.
Don't get too comfortable. There is so much more you can achieve.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
Monday, 20 May 2019
WE ALL HAVE A HISTORY
Everyone has a history. It might be bad, good or both. But we all have some sort of history, some of which we are proud of and some which we are not. Part it is all part of who we are. It is a chapter in the story of our life and will follow us forever. It tells of where we have been before, and not necessarily where we are now.
There those of us whom when we have a bad history, or a history we are not proud of, we face it head on. We look back and see what went wrong, accept that we did something wrong and try to do better. We accept that it is part of our story and will stick to us no matter where we go. We understand that when we tell our story, it will be part of it, because it is our history. We own our mistakes and try to do better. And when you do that, you are not afraid of your history. It is not some boogeyman you are constantly scared will come out.
But there those who just try to shove it away and think it will just vanish and no longer become part of their lives. They do all they can to avoid it, even if it means lying to everyone about their past. They fail to understand that by accepting the past, it doesn't mean you are proud of it. We as humans are sometimes too proud to admit when we are wrong. We try to point fingers at others in order to avoid accepting our mistakes. We would rather be victims and blame others than own up to it. And when it fails, we try to run away from our past without dealing with it.
The truth is, when you are matured enough, you understand that your past just shows your mistakes which made you the better person whom you are today. It shows you've seen your wrongs and have changed to be a better person. You've learned from your mistakes. But to lie and try to hide your past is a sign of weakness. A sign that you didn't learn. A sign that you didn't change. And the worst thing about history is that it always comes back. The last thing you want is for your history to destroy something special you have today because you tried to hide through lies and scheming. When you accept it and are open about it, you live with no fear of it popping back up. It cannot be used against you.
Face your history and never lie about. Talk about it before someone else drops it like a bomb at the moment when you least expect it. When you are open about it, you are never scared of it being brought up because you have faced it. You cannot erase or rewrite your history through lies or running. You only get to write a new life by accepting your past, learning from it and doing things differently.
The truth shall set you free.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
There those of us whom when we have a bad history, or a history we are not proud of, we face it head on. We look back and see what went wrong, accept that we did something wrong and try to do better. We accept that it is part of our story and will stick to us no matter where we go. We understand that when we tell our story, it will be part of it, because it is our history. We own our mistakes and try to do better. And when you do that, you are not afraid of your history. It is not some boogeyman you are constantly scared will come out.
But there those who just try to shove it away and think it will just vanish and no longer become part of their lives. They do all they can to avoid it, even if it means lying to everyone about their past. They fail to understand that by accepting the past, it doesn't mean you are proud of it. We as humans are sometimes too proud to admit when we are wrong. We try to point fingers at others in order to avoid accepting our mistakes. We would rather be victims and blame others than own up to it. And when it fails, we try to run away from our past without dealing with it.
The truth is, when you are matured enough, you understand that your past just shows your mistakes which made you the better person whom you are today. It shows you've seen your wrongs and have changed to be a better person. You've learned from your mistakes. But to lie and try to hide your past is a sign of weakness. A sign that you didn't learn. A sign that you didn't change. And the worst thing about history is that it always comes back. The last thing you want is for your history to destroy something special you have today because you tried to hide through lies and scheming. When you accept it and are open about it, you live with no fear of it popping back up. It cannot be used against you.
Face your history and never lie about. Talk about it before someone else drops it like a bomb at the moment when you least expect it. When you are open about it, you are never scared of it being brought up because you have faced it. You cannot erase or rewrite your history through lies or running. You only get to write a new life by accepting your past, learning from it and doing things differently.
The truth shall set you free.
WITH LOVE...
Mbuelo Ramafamba
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