WHY LOVE IS THE DECIDING FACTOR

We live in a world of various cultures, norms and standards. When growing up, society shapes most of us and our thinking. We try to fit in. And when we fail to fit in, we end up lonely and sad. But today I won't be talking about lonely and sad, or how to fit in into society. I will be talking about how to be happy, more specifically happy in love.

While in this journey of life, we get to meet different people with different qualities and personalities. And on those rare occasions, love decides to ambush us. We find ourselves meeting that special someone whom we so deeply love. But then a problem arises; society. We find ourselves having to decide what to go with. Love or fitting in?

Conservative Families & Friends

The one biggest culprit is conservative standards of family and friends. Of the two, we can only choose who our friends are. Most of us still come from families which still hold to tradition and will not accept anything that goes against their standards. And you can't blame them; it's who they are. They might be against that relationship because you are of different races. It is a very common challenge. Some of you may have experienced it first hand wherein your family doesn't support your relationship because you have different skin color.

On the other hand, it could that the age is a big matter. Most problems arise when the woman is older than the man. This is deemed unacceptable in many society and will face great opposition. People always want things to be done the old fashioned way even though there have been multiple failed relaionships because of these old standard. People still want to abide by the same standards as if they are the holy grail of love. And the reality of things is, love had no formula, and no one man is wise enough to fully comprehend love. Love is greater than our human capabilities.

Sometimes it might be because of your religion. There are many issues which come bundled up with these conservative views of family and friends. And most of the time, they come in the way of an ultimatum. You can only have one. But what if you could have both?

Vain Society Standards

This mostly affects the current generation because they are too naive. We have become a generation were in we measure a person's worth by their beauty or bank balance. Even if you enter someone's name together with worth, it will show you how rich they are. If your net worth can be measured by some website, then you are not wealthy enough. As a person, you can be put to value. That is a recipe for disaster. People are obsessed with how rich he/she is before they pursue love as if money will water love to bear fruits. Love is priceless, so do not try to put a value to it. People end up letting go of the right person in search of money, and they end up miserable with all their money. If you are with someone because of how much they have, then you are not in love with the person. YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH THE MONEY.

If not the bank balance, we focus on beauty and fame. Beauty doesn't lust forever. I made no mistake. Beauty doesn't "lust" forever. That beauty that you are lusting after, will soon be overshadowed by age and better beauty. The lust will be gone. Hence I said, beauty doesn't lust forever. The same can be said about fame. You get used to it and no longer becomes something special. So if the basis of your relationship was fame, then your relationship is left with nothing special. Jokes on you.
ALL THESE SOCIETY STANDARDS OF LOVE ARE VANITY.

Real love

Real love doesn't have standards. Real love just loves. It will find you poor or rich as you are, and it will make it all invisible. Love will take your sadness away. Love will heal all injustices of the past and create hope for a better future. Before I fell in love, I used to think it was a thing of fairytales. But now that I am happily in love, I have learned that love is the one thing that will get you through all the challenges of life. Love takes you as an imperfect being, and makes you a perfect being.

Now to tackle the issues above. You do not want to fight your friends and family. Rather, show them the magic of love and what it has done for you. Rejoice, and speak proudly of your lover. Share with them how happy you are with the person. Do not be shaken or be afraid of talking. Voice it out and reassure them that you will still love them. Show them that it takes love to build better communities of tomorrow; not skin colour or any other standards which only divide us as humanity. The family unit is held up together by love and not these standards.

Rich or not, love is one things that last forever. If your lover loses their riches and beauty, love will always be there. Love sees beyond these things. But if you are with someone and there's no love, the moment whatever you are there for goes away, thats the end of the relationship.

Why Love is the deciding factor

You want to know why love is the deciding factor? Because it is the one thing that will remain when it's all said and done. When your family is no more. When the beauty is gone. When the wealth is worthless. When life happens, love is the only thing that will keep you standing. Love will never forsake you. Love will be your comfort.

And always remember: Love never gives up. Loves perfect everything. Love is stronger than all the challenges life brings. Love was there before us. Love will always remain. Fall in love. Be wild and enjoy it. STOP TRYING TO PLEASE SOCIETY. YOUR FUTURE IS WITH YOUR PARTNER, NOT SOCIETY. YOU WON'T MARRY YOUR NEIGHBOURHOOD. CHOOSE A PARTNER YOU LOVE, NOT A PARTNER SOMEONE ELSE LOVES FOR YOU.